Thursday, November 11, 2010

A Short Biography - Who Am I?

I am a woman who has struggled with knowing who I am and what I want out of Life.

I am a daughter who was neglected and sexually abused as a child and survived.

I am a sister who tried to be perfect and failed as protector of my younger siblings.

I am a wife who loves my kind and very patient husband as best I can with the intimacy scars that I still carry.

I am a mother who swore I would love and protect my own children from incest.

I am an incest survivor who shares my stories to offer hope, strength and healing to other survivors.

I am an incest survivor who refused to ever quit.

I am a wounded child who has learned to thrive as a loving, beautiful woman.

Because of the struggle with incest, I am strong and compassionate when I might not have been otherwise.

I am who I am because of the incest, not in spite of it.

Today I am a survivor and a thriver who loves my family, friends and my life. 

I still struggle some days, but there is also laughter and joy in my life.

I still hurt and get angry at times but have also forgiven my abusers and myself.

I call my blog Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker because my life has been a spiritual journey back to God and his love. 

I call myself a Lightworker because we all, at our centers, are Light. 

I choose to shine my Light to help others heal from the pain of child abuse.

If I can heal, I know that you can heal too.

Will you join me in letting your Light shine and helping someone else to heal?

We all are so much more than our experiences can define us as.

Let your Light shine for the world to see that united we stand to stop child abuse.


Lance said...

You ARE light...and you are a gift to this world. I feel this all very much...and today especially.

Much peace,

Patricia Singleton said...

Lance, thank you so much for your lovely words. I appreciate you so much. You are a light also.

Susan Komisar Hausman said...

Patricia...this is so beautiful and I can totally relate. You give such clear voice to a survivor's road. Thank you for sharing. Susan

Patricia Singleton said...

Susan, thank you so much for letting me know that you can totally relate to my words.

Colleen said...

Patricia, I felt like you were speaking for me. Beautiful post. Thank you!

Patricia Singleton said...

Colleen, you are very welcome. You are a beautiful survivor friend. I am glad you saw yourself in my post.

Clueless said...

I really love this post and identify with it.I think that because of the abuse that I experienced that I am definitely an advocate for the disenfranchized (?) type of work, developmental disabilities, elderly and GLBT...etc...

I'm glad that you are too!!

Patricia Singleton said...

Clueless, thank you.

Unknown said...

Beatuiful post Patricia:) You so elequently put those things that each of us can look at from the vantage of our own journey. Thank you:) Susan:)

Patricia Singleton said...

Susan, you are very welcome. Thank you for sharing this journey through life with me. We both benefit greatly from the sharing.

Darlene Ouimet said...

Most excellent as always my friend.

Patricia Singleton said...

Darlene, thanks. I am so very glad that you and I are friends.

Patricia Singleton said...

This post has been included in Splinteredones's Blog post November Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse. The link is here:

Nikki (Sarah) said...

Patricia...I love this list of who are a gift in every sense of the word.

Patricia Singleton said...

Sarah, thank you so very much. You also are a gift in my life. I am honored by your words.

Paul from Mind Parts said...

Patricia, I am glad to join you!!!


Patricia Singleton said...

Paul, thank you. I am glad that you have joined me on this journey to wellness too. We benefit from each others experiences and thoughts.

@sheepfoldcarer said...

Patricia, what a gift you have for sharing your healing journey. An inspiration to us all. It seems to me that their are many roads to healing and some are rocky and rough with many obstacles. You have become a guiding light and I do so admire you. I hope I too can offer a little flicker of light in my writng, as well as in the work I am priviledged to undertake with trauma survivors. Thank you.

Patricia Singleton said...

Sheepfoldcarer,thank you for your kind words. You, too, are a guiding light with your blog. Your words are very powerful tools of healing for your and for others.