The May issue of Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse is out at Kate1975's Blog. Here is the link:
http://kate1975.wordpress.com/2011/05/20/blog-carnival-against-child-abuse-may-2/
Go by and wish Kate a late birthday as this month is her birthday month. The topic of this month's Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse is self-care.
So many people take it for granted that everyone is raised to take care of their personal needs. That is true if they are raised in a healthy family. For those who are child abuse survivors, that usually isn't true. The lies that children who are abused are taught tell them that they have no value to their parents or society. Victims are taught that their needs are not important. As adults, they continue to believe that their needs are not important. They are taught to take care of others' needs and to ignore their own needs. Many times they are taught to hate their bodies and to ignore even their health. If they get sick as children, they are ignored or made to feel bad because of their illness. Some are even punished for daring to get sick.
As survivors, many have to learn the basics of self-care. Many have fears of doctors and dentists in particular. As a child a doctor was someone who might ask questions, that might demand answers that the abusers didn't want known. Dentists are often so frightening because of the survivors fight or flight response that is set off anytime that someone, like a dentist, is right there in their face. Often because of these fears from childhood, the body is ignored when it first starts to hurt. Many abuse survivors have a high tolerance for pain. By the time that they give in to the pain and go to the doctor or the dentist what might have been a minor thing has become a major illness or a major problem with their teeth such as an absess or a rotted tooth. Self-care isn't taught to child abuse victims. Self-care is often learned from books or mentors when the victim starts their journey as a survivor.
I hope that you will join me in going to the link to Kate1975's Blog at the following link:
http://kate1975.wordpress.com/2011/05/20/blog-carnival-against-child-abuse-may-2/
This month you have your choice of 34 blog posts. I hope that you will take the time to read all of them. This month, 5 of the submissions are mine. Please feel free to leave comments and let each blogger know what you think about their blog post. If you have any blog posts of your own that you would like to submit to the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse, the carnival is posted each month. You can go to Blog Carnival and look for the deadline for posting for Carnival Against Child Abuse and submit your own posts for next month's carnival.
Patricia
http://kate1975.wordpress.com/2011/05/20/blog-carnival-against-child-abuse-may-2/
Go by and wish Kate a late birthday as this month is her birthday month. The topic of this month's Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse is self-care.
So many people take it for granted that everyone is raised to take care of their personal needs. That is true if they are raised in a healthy family. For those who are child abuse survivors, that usually isn't true. The lies that children who are abused are taught tell them that they have no value to their parents or society. Victims are taught that their needs are not important. As adults, they continue to believe that their needs are not important. They are taught to take care of others' needs and to ignore their own needs. Many times they are taught to hate their bodies and to ignore even their health. If they get sick as children, they are ignored or made to feel bad because of their illness. Some are even punished for daring to get sick.
As survivors, many have to learn the basics of self-care. Many have fears of doctors and dentists in particular. As a child a doctor was someone who might ask questions, that might demand answers that the abusers didn't want known. Dentists are often so frightening because of the survivors fight or flight response that is set off anytime that someone, like a dentist, is right there in their face. Often because of these fears from childhood, the body is ignored when it first starts to hurt. Many abuse survivors have a high tolerance for pain. By the time that they give in to the pain and go to the doctor or the dentist what might have been a minor thing has become a major illness or a major problem with their teeth such as an absess or a rotted tooth. Self-care isn't taught to child abuse victims. Self-care is often learned from books or mentors when the victim starts their journey as a survivor.
I hope that you will join me in going to the link to Kate1975's Blog at the following link:
http://kate1975.wordpress.com/2011/05/20/blog-carnival-against-child-abuse-may-2/
This month you have your choice of 34 blog posts. I hope that you will take the time to read all of them. This month, 5 of the submissions are mine. Please feel free to leave comments and let each blogger know what you think about their blog post. If you have any blog posts of your own that you would like to submit to the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse, the carnival is posted each month. You can go to Blog Carnival and look for the deadline for posting for Carnival Against Child Abuse and submit your own posts for next month's carnival.
Patricia
