I used affirmations that I wrote throughout the day to build my self-esteem until I could believe in my self-worth, to know that I had value as a human being. I had several books of affirmations that I would start my day by reading. I could believe what others wrote and said easier than I could trust my own self.
On page 168 of the book The Secret, Dr. Fred Alan Wolf shares an affirmation from Charles Haanel's book, The Master Key System, which says,
"I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, and happy."
According to Dr. Wolf, this is "an affirmation that incorporates every single thing any human being can want, and that this affirmation will bring about harmonious conditions to all things." Dr. Wolf says, " the affirmation is in strict accordance with the Truth, and when Truth appears every form of error or discord must necessarily disappear."
This affirmation says it all. I don't know about you but I am going to do this affirmation every day and see what difference it makes in my life. I have already written it out on an index card that I can carry around with me to remind me to read it at different times of the day.
If you decide to use this affirmation, say it with as much feeling as you can put into it. Backing the affirmation with feeling gives it more power to manifest.
I know that affirmations work. As an incest survivor and young adult, I had a very low self-esteem. I used affirmations to learn to love myself. This process was not easy. It took years for me to learn to love myself.
Saying affirmations out loud is good. Writing them is better.
How to write an affirmation:
1. Write the affirmation down.
2. Listen to what your inner critic says about what you wrote.
3. Write the affirmation again.
4. Listen to what your inner critic says about the affirmation.
5. Write the affirmation again.
6. Listen to what your inner critic says again.
Continue writing the affirmation over and over until the inner critic is silent. Write the affirmation again several more times to make sure the inner critic stays silent.
Here is an example.
1. I am a lovable person.
Inner critic: Who do you think is going to love you?
2. I am a lovable person.
Inner critic: Sure you are.
3. I am a lovable person.
Inner critic: If somebody loves you, what does that say about them?
4. I am a lovable person.
Inner critic: You are so stupid if you believe anyone can love you.
5. I am a lovable person.
Inner critic: Girl, are you being fooled.
6. I am a lovable person.
7. I am a lovable person.
8. I am a lovable person.
Inner voice: I love you.
9. I am a lovable person.
Inner voice: I love you.
10. I am a lovable person.
Inner voice: Yes, you are.
I wrote the above affirmation only 10 times to show you how the process works. The reality was that I had to write my affirmations a lot more than 5 or 10 times before my inner critic was silenced. Write it every day for as long as needed to completely silence your own inner critic. Your hand may get tired of writing. That's ok. The prize of self-esteem is well worth a sore hand. Did you notice that the inner critic got quiet and then changed to the inner voice. You will know the difference. The inner critic is always negative. The inner voice is always helpful and loving.
Today, I know that I am a lovable person. So are you.