Journey to the Heart, Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul, by Melody Beattie, HarperSanFrancisco, 1996, page 15:
"Sometimes, we're so afraid we don't know how afraid we are. Sometimes, we carry so much fear that it interferes with our ability to enjoy life.
Feel and release your fears. See how needless they are? See how they keep you from enjoying life? Unclench your hands. Don't always look straight ahead. Experience. Adventure. Let yourself live."
"I never knew how afraid I was. Maybe I was even too afraid to look at my fears.
People speak of facing fear, of not being afraid of fear, of working through fear. How do we do that? . . . . . . . . ."
Melody Beattie has you make a written list of everything that you fear. She says that you don't have to do anything with the list. Just writing down your fears is enough. Write down as much as you can.
"We don't need to list everything we need to do about each fear. All we need to do is acknowledge, honestly, what we fear. Once we do, the way will become clear. Acknowledging our fears will give us power. Acknowledging our fears will set us free. Often, it moves us to the next place. It is the barrier we need to pass through.
Although some of our fears may be real, may be grounded in reality, facing them won't make us more afraid. Facing our fears won't cause us more pain. Facing fear will bring us peace and power. The truth isn't the enemy. Fear of the truth is our enemy.
Be gentle with yourself. Let yourself have your fears; and let yourself face them.
Having the wisdom to face the truth will bring us closer to peace."
Thank you, Melody Beattie for your wisdom. Your words have changed my life by helping me to see my fears.
This is the first article of a new series that I am going to write about fear. I invite you to join me on this journey through some of my fears. My hope is that it will also give you the courage to face some of your own fears. Fears shared are fears diminished. Fears are so consuming in the life of an incest survivor. You can let go of fear. You can replace that fear with joy, love, growth and adventure. Fear doesn't have to rule your time and take up so much of your time. Fear doesn't have to become the monster FEAR that you will be reading about in my next few articles. Life is so much more than our fears.