Since reading The Secret, I have been paying more attention to my thoughts and listening to the words that come out of my mouth. I am using affirmations to change my thoughts. That is a future article.
My life is going through some changes---good ones. Even good changes can bring up fears, for me and for those who are close to me. My best friend and I are going through some changes in our relationship. At this point, I don't know where the relationship is going. That uncertainty has brought up anger and fear for me. I would say the same is true for my friend, but that is making an assumption. Making assumptions is something that I need to stop doing. I can't assume that others think and feel as I do.
What I do know is that my friend and I don't talk as often as we did before I started my current growth spurt. Talking less started happening when I started trying to force my friend to move forward with me, at my pace. I completely disregarded what her pace might be. I can't force someone else to move forward at my pace. For that, I apologize to my friend.
Instead of talking every day, we now talk only once or twice a week. When people asked me how my friend was doing, until this week, I would tell them that I didn't know since my friend and I seemed to be moving down separate paths.
Last week, when I heard myself say that we were going down separate paths, I realized that is what I am creating every time I say those words. I thought that I had been fighting against this split happening. The reality was that, with my words to others, I was creating what I didn't want. Now, if someone asks me how my friend is doing, I will answer that she was ok the last time we talked. In this way, I am not creating a future that I don't want.
Where is this relationship going? I don't know. As I change, my relationships change, as they should. Instead of forcing change, I have found another area that I need to "Let Go and Let God." Change is good. It is how we grow. I welcome growth and her changes.
What are you manifesting with your thoughts and words? Is it the future that you want? Are you still creating what you don't want in some areas of your life? Pay attention to your thoughts and words. They manifest your future.