Wednesday, July 25, 2007

The Secret---Manifesting---Create What You Want With Your Thoughts And Words

Since reading The Secret, I have been paying more attention to my thoughts and listening to the words that come out of my mouth. I am using affirmations to change my thoughts. That is a future article.

My life is going through some changes---good ones. Even good changes can bring up fears, for me and for those who are close to me. My best friend and I are going through some changes in our relationship. At this point, I don't know where the relationship is going. That uncertainty has brought up anger and fear for me. I would say the same is true for my friend, but that is making an assumption. Making assumptions is something that I need to stop doing. I can't assume that others think and feel as I do.

What I do know is that my friend and I don't talk as often as we did before I started my current growth spurt. Talking less started happening when I started trying to force my friend to move forward with me, at my pace. I completely disregarded what her pace might be. I can't force someone else to move forward at my pace. For that, I apologize to my friend.

Instead of talking every day, we now talk only once or twice a week. When people asked me how my friend was doing, until this week, I would tell them that I didn't know since my friend and I seemed to be moving down separate paths.

Last week, when I heard myself say that we were going down separate paths, I realized that is what I am creating every time I say those words. I thought that I had been fighting against this split happening. The reality was that, with my words to others, I was creating what I didn't want. Now, if someone asks me how my friend is doing, I will answer that she was ok the last time we talked. In this way, I am not creating a future that I don't want.

Where is this relationship going? I don't know. As I change, my relationships change, as they should. Instead of forcing change, I have found another area that I need to "Let Go and Let God." Change is good. It is how we grow. I welcome growth and her changes.

What are you manifesting with your thoughts and words? Is it the future that you want? Are you still creating what you don't want in some areas of your life? Pay attention to your thoughts and words. They manifest your future.


Deb Estep ~ Learning from my Friend Patricia :) said...

What an awakening that must have been for you Patricia.
Your enthusiasm for your progress and wanting
your friend to accompany you on the journey, yet it
really has to be her choice.

The awareness of where our thoughts are
is certainly the key.

Many years ago, I read a book by
Thich Nhat Hanh -
The Miracle of Mindfulness

I can hardly describe the profound effect this book had on my life.
My awarness of life's moments
increased greatly.

A bio about Hanh

The Miracle of Mindfulness

xo xo

Patricia Singleton said...

Deb, this is a lesson that keeps coming back again and again because I apparently haven't gotten it yet. Maybe this will be the time that I get it and it sticks. I will check out your 2 articles. I have been wanting to read something by Hanh. Maybe that time has come too. Thanks.

Nathalie said...

Wise words, I'm afraid that I've difficulty remembering this lesson - I unfortunatly get locked in negative spirals every now and then, and I'm probably creating them myself by my own negative thoughts or words. I will have to read that book - I've held it in my hands on many occasions, but never bought it. I will do when I see it next time.
Thank you so much for visiting my blog and for leaving your comment :)

Patricia Singleton said...

Nathalie, you are welcome. I couldn't find a way to subscribe. This is an area that I still have to Let Go and Let God because I still want things to be the way I want them and they aren't. This is a valuable lesson for me. I try to ignore rather than forget. I can be very willful. I hope by writing it for everyone to see that I will finally "SEE".

Patricia Singleton said...

This article was accepted in the July 30, 2007 Edition of the Made to be Great - Personal Development Carnival. Check out the really great articles that were submitted to this Carnival at .

Linda Martin said...

I was talking to a friend about this recently. We watched a video of Michael Losier on YouTube where he explained it is our emotions more than our words that indicate what is to be. Words can express emotions. If you're interested in seeing the video, here's the link:
Michael Losier at YouTube

Patricia Singleton said...

Linda, thanks for the link to Michael Losier. I will check it out tonight.