Saturday, May 8, 2010

The Baggage Of Abuse Gets Heavy

Today I found a video called "Baggage" that I want to share with you.  I found it on the blog of Just Be Real, an online blogger who like me is a survivor of abuse.  Please go to Just Be Real's blog and watch the video that she has posted there called "Baggage."  Click on the link below.

http://justbereal77.blogspot.com/2010/05/baggage.html

Watch the video and let me and Just Be Real know what you think.  Thank you JBR for allowing me to share your post with my readers.  As an incest survivor, I carried a lot of baggage around with me everywhere I went just like the girl in the video.

The more you are abused, the more baggage you carry around.  The more baggage you carry around, the heavier it gets.  The heavier the baggage gets, the more tired you get.

Are you carrying any baggage of your own?  Isn't it time that you put it down and walk away.
Patricia

14 comments:

Just Be Real said...

Blessings to you dear Patricia!

Patricia Singleton said...

JBR, thank you and blessings to you. This video describes the burden that so many abuse survivors carry around with us so accurately. Thank you for agreeing to allow me to share your article about the video.

Just Be Real said...

No problem Pat. The script for that video was well written.

What attracted it to me was the likeness of her parents divorcing when she was 9, around the same age as I when my parents started to argue then eventually divorce. Also at this time was when my brother was sexually abusing me. So, it was very potent.

Patricia Singleton said...

JBR, my parents didn't divorce until I was in my 30's. For me the baggage that I carried around was the baggage caused by the incest and the responsibilities given to me by my parents at a too young age.

I had the baggage of being a parent to my parents rather than them being a parent to me as a child. I also had the responsibility of looking out for my two younger siblings.

I carried the baggage of keeping all the secrets of incest from at least two men. I was weighed down by the baggage of shame.

I carried the baggage of being the family hero and the baggage of being protector of my mother's emotions. I carried the baggage of pain and sorrow caused by the abuse and so much more.

My list could go on and on. As I knew, like the girl in the video, I added more and more bags to my load. Fear was the biggest load that I carried. The video describes it so well.

Lance said...

Patricia,
Thank you so much for sharing this hear. It reminds me very much of how we can each make a difference in other's lives...and how part of that is really just being aware of the people around us, and open to listening to them. So moving...

Patricia Singleton said...

Lance, you are welcome. You and I each in our own way do strive to make a difference in the lives of others. I appreciate your efforts.

Just Be Real said...

Blessings to you Pat. Sure, I will be more than happy to submit this for the carnival. Thanks for even thinking about it.

Patricia Singleton said...

JBR, I think that a lot of other people will be able to relate to the video as well as you as I do.

Mary said...

Hi Pat, this video is very powerful, and I too carried my baggage way to long, now that I am able to talk about it and seek therapy, my baggage is much lighter. Thank you for the video...Mary

Patricia Singleton said...

Mary, you are very welcome. I knew that it touched me with its truth. I am glad that Just Be Real posted it. It is well written.

Colleen said...

Thanks for sharing this excellent video. I went to JBR's blog to leave a comment there as well. It touched me because it shares a story that many of us have experienced. I have carried my share of baggage, as many of us have. It is nice to be able to put it down sometimes. I just wish I wouldn't pick any of it up again!

Patricia Singleton said...

Colleen, I know. I still sometimes pick mine back up too.

Darlene Ouimet said...

This is wonderful Patricia! Such a great visual, and really exactly how it feels when we let it go, like we have let go a huge weight.
Hugs, Darlene

Patricia Singleton said...

Darlene, yes, this video describes exactly how I felt in my younger days of carrying the baggage of incest and letting go of that baggage is so freeing. Getting out from under that heavy load was amazing. I didn't even realize that I was carrying all that I was.