Sunday, August 16, 2009

Self-worth Means I Love You

Have you ever reached a place in a game where you find yourself falling short of your best game score and you just can't seem to reach a higher score? You keep playing the game over and over and still continue to fall short.

Life can be like your game. You can reach a point where all of the self-improvement techniques don't take you any higher. You have self-improved as much as is humanly possible. You are where you are in life. You can continue to strive to be better, more highly evolved, but in the mean time you are so focused on the future that you miss the present.

Life is going pretty good for you. You are in a good or even great relationsip with yourself, your spouse, your family, your friends. Where are you? Enjoying the benefits of all of your hard work to get where you are today or are you still thinking/feeling that you aren't worthy enough, smart enough, pretty enough??? The list can go on and on. When do you decide that enough is enough?

Life can be glorious when you allow it to be. All of it comes back to you, not the outside you, but the inside you. When are you going to be happy, content, successful enough for you?

It all always comes back to you and how much you love yourself. Today can you look in the mirror and say "I love you." to yourself and mean it? This is where self-worth comes from, not from someone outside of yourself but from you. Until you can love yourself, loving anyone else is impossible. YOU are the most important person in your life.


VICKI IN AZ said...

Amen, thank you for the reminder.
I am enough.
I am enough.
This is a good mantra.
Hugs to you friend.

Patricia Singleton said...

Vicki, you are welcome. This one took me a long time to finally get it. I had friends who loved me and showed me that I was loveable until I could love myself. Hugs back to you.

Marie said...


Some people seem to forget this! I have gotten several negative comments saying that no body reads my blogs and that I should just give up on myself and experience life. blah blah blah!

If we don't love and care for ourselves who will? Isin't that what healing is all about?

Patricia Singleton said...

Marie, yes that is exactly what healing is all about. Please don't let the negative people beat you back down.

More people read our blogs than actually leave comments on them. Lack of comments doesn't mean that your story isn't touching someone else and making a difference.

My experience with most people who tell me to just get on with my life shows that they just don't understand the struggle that it takes for a sexual abuse survivor to heal and sometimes these same people have unresolved issues of their own that they are afraid to look at. Continue to love and take care of yourself.

sarah said...

you're right about having to love yourself first. When I feel really good about myself, I feel totally connected to others. When I feel down on me, I feel alone. Sarah

Patricia Singleton said...

Sarah, thanks for stopping by. Yes, recovery starts with learning to love yourself.

suZen said...

You are so right about the importance of loving ourselves. Took me a long time to get that! I know I have much to learn - always - but I am happy with who I am, where I've been, all I've tried, and I never let the negatives enter any "look back" I take - ever!

Thanks for a great post!

Patricia Singleton said...

SuZen, that is a great way to live your life. I have found that each of life's trials or lessons as I prefer to call them come with a blessings when you are finally able to let go of the hurt and anger.

Colleen said...

Great post. I am learning to love myself. I often slip into old patterns and have to catch myself. I read somewhere that we need to be our own best friend. I like that. And I try to tell myself that when I need to. Thanks for this reminder.

Patricia Singleton said...

Colleen, thank you. I still sometimes need to be reminded that if I get empty like a vessel, I am no good to anyone else either. You are welcome for the reminder.