Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Happy Birthday Daniel

My biggest supporter in this journey through life had a birthday yesterday on August 4. He turned 60. He can't believe it and neither can I. Both of us wonder where the time went. The person I am talking about is my dear, sweet, very patient husband Daniel.

The "Just for You!" card from American Greetings that I gave Daniel this year said things like,
"I love you because. . .
You believe in me
You're so lovable
You're a romantic at heart
You listen
You make me laugh
You're fun and surprising
You're honest with me"

The card also says,
"You're incredibly sexy
You're hugs are the best
You're the world's greatest kisser"

Those last three made me giggle when I read them. This was such a great card because it says everything that I feel about my husband. Don't you just love greeting cards.

All of those words from the greeting card are so true. Daniel is my husband, my lover and my very best friend in the whole world. He has supported me through all of my many struggles with incest, codependency and the alcoholism issues from my childhood. He has supported me as I struggled to figure out who I am, what I want from Life, what I need from myself and from him in this relationship called marriage, and as I struggled with being a mother while I was learning to mother myself. The years haven't always been good. I haven't always been kind. Some years I was very angry. Often I felt almost lost in the sadness of loss that the inner child felt.

One of the best qualities that Daniel possesses is his wonderful, querky sense of humor that can always cheer me up and remind me that there is joy to be found in Life. Daniel has allowed me the space to grow and to be whatever I have needed to be in order to find out what being me really means. Daniel you hold my heart in your very strong, capable hands and you always will.

Darling, I really do love you with all of my heart.
Happy Birthday Daniel
Your loving wife,
Patricia

8 comments:

Jay Schryer said...

Your husband and I share a birthday! How cool is that?

This is a loving and great tribute. It was a joy to read; thank you for writing it. Someday, I hope someone will write something like this for me...

Patricia Singleton said...

Jay, Happy Birthday. President Obama also shares your birthday. I keep reminding Daniel of some of their similarities. Leos are great people. My life is filled with them all around me---husband, sister and friends. I am sure that one day you will find someone who loves you as much as I love Daniel. He is a Light in my world.

Deb Estep said...

~*~ Happy Belated Birthday Daniel ~*~

My son-in-law Brian and my dtr Nicole just became an Uncle and Auntie yesterday. !!

Bri's sister and her hubby
welcomed their first child....

Brady arrived at 11:54 PM EST

Looks like baby Brady is in wonderful company. :)

xo xo
Deb

Patricia Singleton said...

Deb, I will tell Daniel Happy Birthday for you. Congratulations to Bri and her husband on the birth of their child. Yes, Brady is in good company. Leos are wonderful people.

Colleen said...

Beautiful post. I have written a post letting people know about the comments you made on my blog about joy and sadness. They really comforted me and I wanted to pass them on to help others. I did not think you would mind since you write on your blog that we can share what you write! You have helped me a lot, especially in recent months and I thank you again.
If you do not like what I wrote, please let me know. Here is the link:
http://thethirdfloorwindow.blogspot.com/2009/08/joy-and-grief.html
Blessings!

Patricia Singleton said...

Colleen, thank you so much. I feel that you and I have so much in common. I am glad that I was able to share my own experiences to help you when you needed it. Thank you for the beautiful article. I don't mind if you share anything that I have written if you think it will benefit others.

You just made my day. It was already a wonderful day. Daniel and I celebrated our 37th Anniversary this evening by going out to a new restaurant that a young friend recommended to us. Then we had a quiet evening at home with phone calls from our two grown children.

Anonymous said...

I love you mom! Happy Anniversary again! Wish we were there to celebrate it with you! You guys are awesome! Miss you bunches! (((HUGS)))
Christie

Patricia Singleton said...

Christie, (((HUGS))) back to you sweetheart. I love you too. I think you are kind of awesome yourself. It was a wonderful Anniversary.