Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Journey Within Coaching Session With Paula Kawal

First of all, I want you to be aware of a teleclass that Andrea Hess is doing on Saturday, December 29 at 9:00 a.m. PST/Noon EST called Setting Your Intentions For 2008. Andrea says you will "Learn how to make New Year's Resolutions that actually stick!" I am looking forward to hearing what she has to say. You need to visit her site at
to register for the teleclass.

Yesterday at 1:00 p.m. CST, I was blessed with a free session with Paula Kawal which I won by leaving a comment on her article Celebrate the Wellspring and Win a Free Coaching Session found on her website . If you aren't aware or haven't visited in awhile, visit Paula at her site. You will be glad that you did. The writing and the coaching sessions that she does are fantastic.

The session that I was gifted with is called a Focus Session. The session required that I have total concentration on our phone call for 1 1/2 - 2 hours on the date that we set for me to call Paula. After I set up the time for the session with Paula, I became terrified. I struggled with the terror for days with the thought of changing the date until after the holidays. The rational side of me knew that I needed the session right now so I didn't change the date. When Paula answered her phone and asked how I was, in my usual honest manner, I said, "I am terrified." We both laughed. I told her that I had been overeating all week partly because of the terror of doing this session.

Early last week, Paula sent me a Welcome package through an email that had pages of information for me to read and fill out and fax back to her before the session. She emailed me on Saturday because I hadn't sent it to her yet. I emailed back and told her that part of me was resisting filling out the forms. I made myself sit down that night and finish the pages. I didn't completely fill out the answers. I did the best that I could and decided to leave it at that. My husband went and faxed the pages to Paula on Sunday afternoon for me.

All day on Tuesday, before time for the session, I looked at what I was thinking and feeling. Finally an hour before the session, I got an answer about my fears. Albert, part of this is thanks to an email that you sent me last week too. I realized that the anger and sadness have been a part of me for such a long time that I was afraid of who I might be without them. I didn't know who I would be without those parts of me. I shared this with Paula before we started the session.

In the session, with Paula's guidance, I was able to embrace the sadness and the rage that are inside of me. As Andrea pointed out in a comment to my Feelings article found at , I am not the rage and sadness. They are not who I am. Sometimes, I think, most of us lose sight of that and do believe that our feelings are us. They are not who we really are. They are tools that help us to be aware, but that is all they are.

At one pivotal point in the session, I found myself embracing the part of me that holds my rage in my arms. I held her with love and compassion and she started to cry and talk to me. Before I held her, she was yelling at me with all of her pentup rage. I could see her, in my mind's eye, but I couldn't hear the words that she was screaming. I told Paula that I had done a painting years ago where she was surrounded by clouds of red and black which represented her rage and despair. In the painting she had no mouth because no one could hear her screams of pain and rage.

As I held Rage in my arms, she started to cry and she told me that she just wanted to be acknowledged. She wanted to be heard. A different voice said to bring her into the Light. She has been in the darkness for so long. I envisioned her and I both standing in the most brilliant, loving light that you can imagine. She started to smile. Then the voice said to bring in Sadness also. I did. The three of us were there standing in the Light, smiling and holding each other. This was the biggest instance of healing for me in the entire session. We all three felt such love and joy. Love, joy and peace were the three things that Rage and Sadness both said that they wanted. Now we all have it.

Rage and Sadness are no longer Shadow parts of me living in the darkness. They are in the Light of my love and compassion. Thank you so very much for the gift of the session Paula. If I need any more help, I will definitely be contacting you. Paula, last night, I started straightening up in the living room to have room to put up Christmas decorations. I haven't decided yet if I want to put up the tree at this late date but I am going to put out some Christmas decorations which, up to this point, I couldn't make myself exert the effort to feel any passion for doing so.

Paula works with NLP in her sessions. For more information on Paula's work go to .

For prices for working with Paula with her Journey Inward Coaching go to .

I strongly recommend Paula and her work. The session has made a difference in how I feel. Thank you, Paula.


Paula Kawal | said...

Hi Patricia,

You are very welcome! It was my pleasure to be your guide!

Thank you for bringing your entire self to the session, it was a beautiful experience getting to know all of those amazing parts!

Please send me a picture of your finished never know, that spontaneous-dancing-magical fairy just might appear!

Much Love,


Patricia Singleton said...

Paula, it was an amazing experience for me too.

Andrea Hess|Empowered Soul said...

Hi Patricia,

Thanks so much for mentioning my upcoming class - I really appreciate it!

Thank you also for this beautiful account of your coaching session. I love that you named these parts of yourself, acknowledged and held them lovingly ... you did powerful work! Congratulatons to you AND Paula on your wonderful session.


Shift Your Spirits | said...


This personification of Rage and the story of acknowledgment - which is bringing something from the shadows into the light of conscious awareness - fascinating!

As with the articles I've written about the personification of Money, I use the technique of Personification and Relationships with my private one-on-one clients.

I've found the concept to be extremely flexible and adaptable.

Names | Personae are the ways by which we engage the intangible in Relationships.

Thanks for sharing your experience with Paula - great stuff!

Patricia Singleton said...

Slade, you were on my mind last night. When I was writing the article, it just felt right to actually name her Rage and the other part of me Sadness since their purpose was to hold those feelings. The session with Paula was much better than my thoughts of fear thought it would be. It was great.

Patricia Singleton said...

Andrea, you are welcome. You, Paula and Slade are all doing some fantastic work. I am pleased to be able to be a part of it.

Albert | UrbanMonk.Net said...

Woah man, this is awesome. And thanks for the mention, glad I helped.

The part about your rage having no mouth is so fascinating. I felt like that of the memories I had to face was of me as a baby, in a gigantic room. I couldn't scream or cry because no one would have come anyway, so it felt like I was just muted. That loneliness is horrible, made worse by not having a mouth.

Thanks for sharing Patricia, your courage is always inspiring.

Patricia Singleton said...

Albert, thanks to you for your caring and sharing. Very good analysis of my Rage having no mouth. It is horrible knowing that no one cares enough to hear your cries and screams.

Pat said...

Patricia - I tried to Stumble You from your site but the URL isn't working. I just enjoyed reading your posting about your free coaching session with Paula. It intrigued me as I have felt what you were feeling with the shadows of rage and sadness and bringing them into the light. In a coaching session a couple of years ago I was introduced to the little girl inside of me but in the session the little girl put a stop to continuing and the walls went up. Not quite sure what that was all about. In any case, thank you for sharing your experience of inner healing and I look forward to the same experience. Also, thank you for your comment on my blog.

Patricia Singleton said...

Pat, thank you for letting me know that the Stumble button isn't working. I guess I still haven't figured out how to set it up. I enjoyed your blog article that I read. Thanks for your insightful comments also. The little girl inside of me has, at times, been in open rebellion about certain areas of growth that I have pursued at different times in my journey. She is very frightened sometimes still. We have had to learn to trust each other. She has thrown several tantrums when I have done different things that she didn't trust or was afraid of. With your inner child, don't give up. Keep working. The trust will come for you and for her.