Thursday, June 23, 2011

Guest Post At S.A.S.S.U Sexual Assault Survivors Standing

Several weeks ago, Jacquese whose blog is S.A.S.S.U Assault Survivors Standing asked me to do a guest blog article for her.  We only met recently on Twitter.  I liked quite a few of the comments that Jacquese left on Twitter and so I commented back.  I read her blog and left a comment or two.  Here is what Jacquese says about her blog.

"S.A.S.S.U is devoted to providing healing, empowerment, education and resources to males and females who are survivors of Sexual Assault/Abuse and  molestation or family members and friends who support survivors.  You DO NOT have to be a survivor to support this movement."

I like what this says about Jacquese and her blog.  Like me, she is dedicated to helping survivors.  From what I have seen of Jacquese, she is a wise and caring woman, so when she asked me to write a guest blog article I said yes.

The title of the article is a collaberation between Jacquese and me.  I hope you will join me in going to Jacquese's blog S.A.S.S.U Sexual Assault Survivors Standing to read my blog article which we decided to call

Incest:  Protect Your Children which you will find at the following link:

http://sassuempowerment.blogspot.com/2011/06/incestprotect-your-children.html

Jacquese, thank you for this opportunity for me to reach a new audience of survivors.  I appreciate the work that you are doing to help other survivors and their families and friends. 

Readers, please leave a comment on S.A.S.S.U for Jacquese and me but also come back here and let me know what you think about the article as well. Have a glorious weekend.
Patricia

12 comments:

Interruption said...

I have not read this one yet. But will...I saw your guest post on 'Bongo is Me' blog and it was very painful to read. I wish I could be as honest as you about everything that happened to me. It scares me to be so graphic with my words. Maybe that will change. Thanks.

Patricia Singleton said...

Interruption, thank you for reading my article on Bongo Is Me. Later this afternoon, I will write a post like this one with the link to that article. Thank you for coming here to visit and leaving your words of encouragement.

These two guests articles that I wrote in the same week are as graphic as I have ever gotten with details of the incest. They were hard for me to face and write down for others to see me as the hurting child. I have 20+ years of healing before I could write in this depth for both of these articles. The writing will come with time and healing for you. In the meantime, be gentle with yourself.

SASSU said...

Patricia, thank you again for having the courage to speak about your experience with molestation as a child. People need to hear your story and how you got through it so that they can be hopeful in knowing that they too, can evolve. Please continue sharing and inspiring. I appreciate you.

Patricia Singleton said...

SASSU, thank you for your comment here and for the opportunity to write and post a guest blog article on your blog SASSU. I appreciate you and the opportunity that you gave me to reach other survivors.

By Daffodil said...

Hi Patricia, I found your comments in response to Interuption very useful. I am often fustrated at my inability to read beyond a trigger warning and criticise myself for avoiding the real facts in my writing. I seem to think its time I stopped being gentle with myself, the work of yourself others helps me realise how wrong this is!

Patricia Singleton said...

By Daffodil, when I tell someone to be gentle with themselves, it is usually in reference to the inner criticism. We are often so hard on ourselves with the inner criticism that we tell ourselves. The inner critic usually is just repeating the name calling that we were taught by our parents &/or abusers from our childhoods. My parents were my abusers. Not everyone's parents are their abusers.

jannehelentommervag said...

Fantastic article Patricia and so well written for causing awareness of abuse.

As you say not everyones parents are abusers. My mother physically abused me by hitting me, and my brother was the one sexualy abusing me... It is though having 2 family members against one and noone to care to stop it even when trying to tell.

Keep writing and cause awareness <3 This madness need to be stopped, people has to open their eyes and see this horrible truth of abuse!

Patricia Singleton said...

Janne Helen, Thank you. I am glad that you liked my article. I will definitely continue to write and give people that awareness that we all need if we are going to stop child abuse. Glad you visited.

Alyana said...

Your account of your abuse during your childhood is heart-wrenching, I commend Patricia for bravely sharing her ordeal during her young age in order to raise awareness about this harsh reality that many of our youths have suffered or are suffering from at present.

I really hope there will be more advocates against child abuse.

Patricia Singleton said...

Alyana, thank you. I write about my story of incest abuse because we do need more advocates against child abuse. As each one of us speaks out about our abuse, it releases others from the bonds of silence of the abusers. Thank you, Alyana for your visit and your comment.

Marj aka Thriver said...

Wow, Patricia! You have been so active..since I have not been. I am glad you are doing the advocacy work you are doing. I read the guest blog post and I cried. No child should ever be treated like an object like that. No child is an object. Every child is a flesh-and-blood human being and deserves care and respect. I am so sorry that your mother did not protect you. Thank you for your courage in sharing.

Patricia Singleton said...

Marj, thank you for your comment and your tears. I am sorry that my words made you cry. When I wrote it I did not expect that my words would make anybody cry. Almost everyone that read the post has said that they did cry, even the men. Writing it upset me but I didn't cry. That tells me that I am still distancing myself from my pain part of the time.