tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post8717764737066854935..comments2024-02-13T05:21:26.676-06:00Comments on Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker: Lost Pieces And Abilities Cause By The Pain Of IncestPatricia Singletonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-61136661788612690132010-10-23T20:14:04.402-05:002010-10-23T20:14:04.402-05:00Anonymous, thank you. Yes, I have used EFT. I ha...Anonymous, thank you. Yes, I have used EFT. I have even written articles about using EFT. I have used it on my own and also gone to a trained EFT person back in the early summer before I lost my transportation. I think it was beginning to help but wasn't able to continue going for the treatments. If you will do a search of this blog on EFT, you will find the blog posts that I wrote about EFT and its use.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-74771457104843685082010-10-23T19:45:41.330-05:002010-10-23T19:45:41.330-05:00I have to say that Im so sorry for what u as a chi...I have to say that Im so sorry for what u as a child had to deal with as we r many. It is courage ,faith,hope to do this . GOD BLESS you.Have you ever heard of EFT-EmotionalFreedomTechnique? This is what Im using for ALL my issues. Its a great thing to have.Craig Gary is founder. Many others will help you.They are still helpin me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-90577958181935998132010-06-01T22:07:26.022-05:002010-06-01T22:07:26.022-05:00Nicky, thank you. I am glad that this article is ...Nicky, thank you. I am glad that this article is helping you. I just briefly checked out Alle's blog. Thank you for alerting me to its existence. I will go back and read more. Blessings to you as you do your own work on recovery.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-70600328164957261512010-06-01T20:04:48.979-05:002010-06-01T20:04:48.979-05:00This is a very inspiring piece of writing, and has...This is a very inspiring piece of writing, and has really encouraged me to move through pain from my own childhood. Thank you. <br /><br />I have also recently discovered a writer, Alle C. Hall who writes a blog called About Childhood that explores childhood from her perspective as an abuse survivor. I think it might be interesting to you and any other survivors looking for support.<br /><br />http://allehall.wordpress.com/Nickynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-88570281474771271502010-05-21T09:16:21.380-05:002010-05-21T09:16:21.380-05:00Splinterdones, Thank you. I think that many of us...Splinterdones, Thank you. I think that many of us as survivors will probably be able to relate to how the process works.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-42386341302064545362010-05-21T07:11:12.612-05:002010-05-21T07:11:12.612-05:00This is so how my process works hon. Startling to ...This is so how my process works hon. Startling to read about it honestly. Ah-ha epiphanies followed by the gunk created in their aftermath. Then on to the next. This is a<br />beautiful post, one that speaks to the head and the heart at the sw time which is a<br />tough thing to do. Enjoy your sitting wih it :). Don't overload watching the dominoes as<br />they fall ;?SplinteredonesHttp://splinteredones.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-27170774493614912672010-05-20T23:33:08.691-05:002010-05-20T23:33:08.691-05:00Tracie, thank you. I have this belief that things...Tracie, thank you. I have this belief that things happen when they are supposed to. It cuts out a lot of unnecessary worrying for me. I know that those doors will open when they are supposed to and not a second before. Have a glorious evening.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-67195342255223447592010-05-20T22:40:03.358-05:002010-05-20T22:40:03.358-05:00I really relate to this. I haven't formed dif...I really relate to this. I haven't formed different personalities either, but like you I believe that i shut down parts of myself back when the abuse started, and I think as it continued I shut off more and more. I have found myself searching for those locked up parts of myself more and more recently. I feel great hope that once I am ready those doors will open.....I hope yours do too! <br /><br />Thank you for sharing this!Tracie Nallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908908021649000930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-91886203465270069972010-05-07T18:06:08.208-05:002010-05-07T18:06:08.208-05:00Colleen, thank you so much. The outpouring of lov...Colleen, thank you so much. The outpouring of love and support that I have gotten over the past few days is amazing and has been so healing for me. I do have some wonderful friends.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-25743771177990028562010-05-07T14:20:23.959-05:002010-05-07T14:20:23.959-05:00JBR, thank you.JBR, thank you.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-27788406325179709512010-05-07T14:12:21.171-05:002010-05-07T14:12:21.171-05:00Pat feel free to use whatever you need to share fr...Pat feel free to use whatever you need to share from my blog. Blessings dear.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-61270536507785041952010-05-07T13:35:26.867-05:002010-05-07T13:35:26.867-05:00JBR,yes, it is a lot to absorb. I can always coun...JBR,yes, it is a lot to absorb. I can always count on your comments to raise my spirits. Thank you. I typed part of the above article through tears. I am in a much better place today. I have talked and shared this issue with so many friends over the past few days and the comments have been so positive and healing. Thank you all.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-47218039169509011722010-05-07T13:24:53.220-05:002010-05-07T13:24:53.220-05:00Pat wow! A lot to absorb. I appreciate you going...Pat wow! A lot to absorb. I appreciate you going on and sharing. You are truly a blessing to many and encouraging. When I come to read your posts I am very inspired and know what you share does not go to waste. I feel your pain and I am so very sorry that you had to endure such as a child. I can relate at times in sharing my posts, that I get very overwhelmed with memories. Just my recent one now, was extremely painful just to relive as I typed it.<br /><br />Thank you for being real dear one. Blessings.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-30086363137472450592010-05-07T10:44:13.756-05:002010-05-07T10:44:13.756-05:00Katie, comments like yours and all the others that...Katie, comments like yours and all the others that I have gotten during this difficult time shows me the true value of reaching out to others for help. You said it well. It is the connection between us all that is so important. I love that our sharing gives others the freedom to do so as well. That is true sharing-the interplay between us all. It is wonderful to see others feel safe enough to share as well.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-55775059301839427832010-05-07T10:37:10.787-05:002010-05-07T10:37:10.787-05:00Katie, you are probably right about the little gir...Katie, you are probably right about the little girl not being dead but just being in hiding behind a closed door. When I wrote this article, I was writing from what I was feeling at the time and not doing my usual thing of analyzing everything to pieces before posting it. <br /><br />Someone suggested to me that all of this could be happening as a result of the interview or in the aftermath of the interview. That may be true. I know that when I did the interview, I definitely opened some new doors for myself. Apparently I also allowed for the opening of doors inside myself as well.<br /><br />I know that the mind allows itself to "see" old hurts only when it knows that we are strong enough to deal with the hurt. The mind is concerned with its own survivor. That is why as children, the mind sometimes shuts itself down when it feels threatened by the amount of hurt that is happening to the body and/or the mind. Sometimes shutting down is the only way to survive an extremely hurtful event. <br /><br />The mind is a wonderful, complicated, amazing creation. Thank you for caring.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-45652336501270510312010-05-07T10:15:56.077-05:002010-05-07T10:15:56.077-05:00Deb, thank you so much for the Breathe painting. ...Deb, thank you so much for the Breathe painting. It is already printed out. I will put it in a frame and put on the wall in a place to see it all the time.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-2093405542018579022010-05-07T09:59:14.717-05:002010-05-07T09:59:14.717-05:00Deb, thank you. You are one of the most compassio...Deb, thank you. You are one of the most compassionate people that I know. <br /><br />Yes, even though I have worked on it myself, as an incest survivor, reaching out is still hard for me to do. Writing about my struggle here on my blog is easier for me than picking up the phone and calling for help. <br /><br />I reach out online to somebody and asked for help also. The adult in me knew that person would offer me help. The wounded inner child expected her to refuse or just not email me back. The little girl in me learned to not have expectations because her needs were never met. <br /><br />When she does have expectations, she expects to be disappointed. In addition to that ah-ha moment, I found myself dealing with this stuff from the inner child as well.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-21714703788094849862010-05-07T09:45:04.104-05:002010-05-07T09:45:04.104-05:00hi patricia, i have one more comment. i just read ...hi patricia, i have one more comment. i just read through the comments and i really appreciated reading the conversations about being able to reach out to people and dealing with our expectations. i too have a hard time reaching out at times. <br /><br />i have a voice inside that tells me i'm being "selfish" or using up people's energy for my own needs. when the truth is, the best friends of mine don't feel that way at all when i share my troubles with them, because it becomes an opportunity for them to share with me too, for us to connect and be there for each other. and we both feel less alone and more understood.<br /><br />i'm so glad you have that and that you have support in your life and meetings and classes to go to so that you have not only the support you give yourself. but support through others as well~ like on this blog too. <br /><br />i'm glad you reach out. because in your reaching you reach others and our lives are enriched by knowing you~ <br /><br />warm wishes to you~~~me as i amhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14709343968813770150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-36271824764717482462010-05-07T09:36:14.633-05:002010-05-07T09:36:14.633-05:00dear patricia~ my first thought is that perhaps no...dear patricia~ my first thought is that perhaps no part of you is dead at all. but may have felt dead all this time. because it sounds like there are some parts of you awakening or starting back up again. the ways you shut down to protect yourself helped you, and in some ways your healing is like walking down a hallway in your mind opening doors that long ago were closed. finding aspects of yourself you'd forgotten or long ago thought you'd lost.<br /><br />i was just thinking about you before i saw you'd made a new post. hoping that you're doing ok in the wake of the interview. sounds like you're moving right along processing your feelings and taking good care of yourself.<br /><br />sending you safe hugs and peaceful wishes ~~~me as i amhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14709343968813770150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-3178978131124694682010-05-07T06:16:05.020-05:002010-05-07T06:16:05.020-05:00Patricia,
Just plain THANK YOU for your strength ...Patricia,<br /><br />Just plain THANK YOU for your strength and courage. It takes both for someone to share openly in the way you do. <br /><br />I can't presume to know for you, but the most difficult thing for me is REACHING out to someone and saying... I am having a bad moment, or I need help.<br /><br />Due to my parents alcoholism there was no one to go to or to share with. I am learning how to do that. <br /><br />Patricia, I might have shared this with your before, but here it is again. ~*~Breathe~*~<br /><br />Print this out, and in the moments that you might lose your breath,<br />let this be a gentle reminder. <br /><br />http://tinyurl.com/breathe-Patricia<br /><br />Not only for Patricia, anyone is welcome to print out this watercolor painting of mine. :)<br /><br />HUGS and LOVE<br />DebDeb Estephttp://deb_inside.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-75627233496249125482010-05-06T11:34:14.816-05:002010-05-06T11:34:14.816-05:00Barbara, what is truly awesome to me is the people...Barbara, what is truly awesome to me is the people who have reached out to me to offer me love, comfort and healing words. I am in a good place today to receive all of this kindness. Thank you so much for your friendship. We are all each other's teacher.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-4007393586782278542010-05-06T11:27:52.312-05:002010-05-06T11:27:52.312-05:00"I think that I just shut down certain parts ..."I think that I just shut down certain parts of myself. I let them die." <br /><br />Nope....Nope, Patricia, they are NOT dead. You put them away for safe keeping and now you are in a place where you can and will be bringing them back out, one-by-one, discovering them all as if for the first time in many cases, experiencing them, owning them, and learning about them. You are pretty darn smart and inventive for being able to shield these things away, using whatever you had at your disposal so that you could traverse the most difficult of journeys. Nope, these things are not dead...they are all there waiting for you to open to them, to embrace them once again.<br /><br />It is awesome to get to witness you courageously blazing through all this stuff in your life...You help everyone else have the courage that they, too, might be able to do as you are doing.<br /><br />Thank you, dear Teacher!<br /><br />Love, Hugs & Blessings,<br />Barbara ManningAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-48498358743150597782010-05-06T10:29:49.852-05:002010-05-06T10:29:49.852-05:00Hold Fast, that is an excellent idea. Thank you s...Hold Fast, that is an excellent idea. Thank you so much for sharing it. It makes perfect sense to do that to make the inner child feel safe.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-83555647386625439372010-05-06T10:08:16.065-05:002010-05-06T10:08:16.065-05:00"I am in this until the end." What a he..."I am in this until the end." What a healthy statement. <br /><br />Many times my little girl is so frightened when I am trying to heal and I too have to stop for a while. I have found out I can have a gentle conversation with my 5-year old self and I tell her she can stay back in a safe place while I journey ahead into the unknown. It took a bit but I have convinced her I am an adult and can't be hurt by the "evil" that was in her life. When the path is safe, I'll come back and get her. It took a while to convince her she would be safe and I would come back, but it is getting easier for her to trust me now that I have done this a few times. I feel so good that my little girl now has an adult she can now trust, even if it is just me. <br /><br />Not sure this will work for you but wanted to help in some small way.Hold Fastnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-50138187695112145242010-05-06T09:40:20.242-05:002010-05-06T09:40:20.242-05:00Slade, until I started learning to meditating and ...Slade, until I started learning to meditating and the teachers started doing guided imagery meditations, I never knew that I was different than everyone else in the class. I told one of my teachers who was also a very close friend about my lack of being able to see the pictures she was painting in the minds of the class. She didn't understand how I couldn't see. I never mentioned it again. Until yesterday, I just thought I was born that way.<br /><br />After the ah-ha moment, I went into a tail spin of grieving the loss of that sight. At this point, I have no idea what the key to that door is. I am taking care of myself. Thank you for your love and support. I am in this until the end.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.com