tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post1714235063669297972..comments2024-02-13T05:21:26.676-06:00Comments on Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker: Dealing With People Who Push Your ButtonsPatricia Singletonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-18741813848659710042011-05-09T12:41:55.014-05:002011-05-09T12:41:55.014-05:00Anonymous, all of what you said is good for stoppi...Anonymous, all of what you said is good for stopping the button pushing. It is all about you when your buttons are being pushed. Sometimes the only safe thing to do is to walk away.<br /><br />The person that I wrote this post about is someone that my husband and I have since walked away from our friendship with him. He wasn't going to change and we were not comfortable with his harrassing attitude. I do pray for him. He would make a great friend if he could let go of his petty jealousy that makes him a bully. I no longer accept abuse from anyone in my life. I have the right to be who I am without being bullied for that stand.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-14197138626997758522011-05-09T04:50:19.661-05:002011-05-09T04:50:19.661-05:00Detatch -rise above- work out what your own part i...Detatch -rise above- work out what your own part in it is . <br />What steps can i take to communicate differently to diffuse the situation. <br />How can i better protect myself next time.<br />Pray for the button pusher<br />Hide my buttons <br />Deactivate my buttons<br />change my re-actions<br />take action take no action - do not re-act <br />love myself more <br />xxxxxxxxxxxxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-85208374866622537852009-08-30T15:40:07.766-05:002009-08-30T15:40:07.766-05:00Liara, I always look forward to learning more from...Liara, I always look forward to learning more from your comments. Thank you.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-45797556162621050612009-08-30T14:31:35.938-05:002009-08-30T14:31:35.938-05:00You always have a choice to view these kinds of pe...You always have a choice to view these kinds of people as gifts or blessings. They help you go deeper within yourself to learn why you harbour anger and feelings of discomfort. You are invited to do what it takes to work through this kind of energy, learn to let go, release it and heal at your pace. This removes the buttons.Liara Coverthttp://blog.dreambuilders.com.aunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-56267552343794922872009-01-06T16:52:00.000-06:002009-01-06T16:52:00.000-06:00Elisabeth, send me your email address in a comment...Elisabeth, send me your email address in a comment here. I won't publish the comment but will email you. I don't know if I can answer your question but we will see.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-22872968351523599592009-01-06T16:47:00.000-06:002009-01-06T16:47:00.000-06:00I was wondering if there is a way to contact you b...I was wondering if there is a way to contact you b/c I have question about people who push my buttons. Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-25224162340932072852008-07-06T22:36:00.000-05:002008-07-06T22:36:00.000-05:00Pat, isn't it wonderful to have the awareness of w...Pat, isn't it wonderful to have the awareness of what is happening even if you still get the buttons pushed and then catch yourself reacting, that is better than having no idea why you are so angry or hurt by the actions of another person. Awareness is the first step towards change. Two steps forward, one step back seems to be the way it works for me in the beginning.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-3868122074323812612008-07-06T22:04:00.000-05:002008-07-06T22:04:00.000-05:00Patricia - you're right about some people pushing ...Patricia - you're right about some people pushing buttons. I haven't always been able to catch it when they pull the trigger but I'm getting better at it.<BR/><BR/>Even if I'm able to look at it afterwards and send them love it's so much better than engaging with the negative energy that can only potentially bring me further down.<BR/><BR/>They're only triggering something I still need to come to terms with within me.<BR/><BR/>Good post and reflective thoughts on how you've learned to work through this.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-91438030112523682132008-07-05T19:21:00.000-05:002008-07-05T19:21:00.000-05:00Evan, I agree that sometimes just being polite and...Evan, I agree that sometimes just being polite and not connecting with the person is the best that you can do. For me, figuring out what is being triggered in me is the best way to stop the buttons from being pushed in the future.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-4813107091342579072008-07-05T19:13:00.000-05:002008-07-05T19:13:00.000-05:00Thanks Patricia for much wisdom.My way of respondi...Thanks Patricia for much wisdom.<BR/><BR/>My way of responding is to see what is triggered in me. I do allow myself to indulge in fantasies of getting back to them.<BR/><BR/>When I have to keep dealing with them I do my best to stay polite and superficial - I don't let them get close.Evanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13355215688351759230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-40952741390180696172008-07-05T11:16:00.000-05:002008-07-05T11:16:00.000-05:00Corinne, you are right. They are dangerous but on...Corinne, you are right. They are dangerous but only for as long as we allow them to undermind our confidence and trust in ourselves and others. In looking at this person, I see the qualities that push my buttons when I allow them to be pushed. I also see the good qualities that this person sees that he probably doesn't see because he is looking at the world through his pain. Seeing the good in him is my gift to him and myself because when I see the good in him, I am also seeing it in myself. That is the lesson that I choose to take out of this experience.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-73764032988519488352008-07-05T09:51:00.000-05:002008-07-05T09:51:00.000-05:00Patricia - you are right on with this article.Thes...Patricia - you are right on with this article.<BR/><BR/>These people are DANGEROUS. If you confront them, they will raise the stakes on you and do more to attack. All the while being nice to your face.<BR/><BR/>Your best advice here is to limit your being around them and just ignore them as much as you can.<BR/><BR/>The ideal would be not to see them at all - but as you said - they are sometimes involved with others you want to see.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-10781805249063981212008-07-05T09:23:00.000-05:002008-07-05T09:23:00.000-05:00Slade, yes, they are my buttons. That is why I am...Slade, yes, they are my buttons. That is why I am willing to do the work of removing the buttons because I am the one who also does the suffering if I keep letting them be pushed.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-12854684983807934032008-07-05T09:06:00.000-05:002008-07-05T09:06:00.000-05:00Patricia,When I consider the phrase "pushing my bu...Patricia,<BR/><BR/>When I consider the phrase "pushing my buttons" it occurs to me that the buttons are indeed mine. So, I wonder, how can I remove the buttons?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com