Wednesday, September 14, 2011

You Deserve Your Own Love Guest Post

I was asked last week to submit a guest post for The Wounded Warrior blog which my friend from Twitter JanMetalMan is the owner.  Jan is a male survivor. He calls himself a wounded warrior.  I see myself as a warrior when it comes to reaching out to other survivors and giving others awareness about incest so that we can all give it our best efforts to protect our children from sexual abuse.

I had about a week to decide what I wanted to write the guest post on.  I kept coming back to the topic of self-love.  We are often taught as children that self-love is selfish.  The truth that I have discovered about self-love is that it is the most unselfish act that I can do. Me loving myself and you loving yourself benefits everyone around us.  I can better love you and my family if I love myself first. This has been the most valuable lesson that I have learned in my healing journey. When I love myself, I don't let myself become empty and useless to everyone. I take care of my needs so that I can be a better person and a better friend, partner and parent.

The title of the guest post is "You Deserve Your Own Love." Here is the link:

http://whatislove-2010.blogspot.com/2011/09/patricia-singleton-you-deserve-your-own.html

Thank you Jan for honoring me by asking me to write a guest post on your blog.
Patricia

6 comments:

Sandy said...

You did such a beautiful job on this post! I really enjoyed it and found it enlightening because it is a bit of a struggle right now for me. Thanks a bunch!

Patricia Singleton said...

Sandy, thank you. Self-love is a big struggle for many of us. Glad my words could have you.

Patricia Singleton said...

"have" such read "help" in the above comment.

Patricia Singleton said...

Colleen, thank you.

Tracie Nall said...

Whenever I think about self love, I think of that passage from the Bible, "Love your neighbor as you love yourself" and I realize that I can't go out and love others fully, if I'm not first loving myself.

Thanks for sharing this, Patricia!

Patricia Singleton said...

Tracie, yes, I love that quote too. It is one of my favorite. So many people forget that it says "as you love yourself" which means you have to love yourself first.