tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post8840188246399533489..comments2024-02-13T05:21:26.676-06:00Comments on Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker: Ending Toxic Relationships And ForgivenessPatricia Singletonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-91884965902213665442011-08-16T12:16:40.644-05:002011-08-16T12:16:40.644-05:00Touched2MySoul, thank you for visiting my blog and...Touched2MySoul, thank you for visiting my blog and for commenting. I love what the poem that you are talking about says about people coming into our lives for a reason,a season or a lifetime. I am glad that my post shows you that you are not alone in your journey. That is why I write my blog and share my experiences - good and painful and in between. Today, no one has to do their work alone.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-61616217998127388422011-08-16T12:02:27.265-05:002011-08-16T12:02:27.265-05:00People come into your life for a time... Some are ...People come into your life for a time... Some are there for a moment in time, some there for a season and some for a lifetime. It can hurt and be disappointing when someone we thought was here for a season we find is only supposed to be for a moment. Or someone we thought was a lifetime is only present for a season. The great thing is to breath in the whole experience and continue to grow, learn and love. I am learning this and am learning to breathe in these experiences. Your post shows that we are not alone in these experiences. Thank you for sharing.touched2mysoulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10657073754312626765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-53000609209930173292011-08-11T12:44:17.792-05:002011-08-11T12:44:17.792-05:00Jan, thank you for your visit and for leaving a co...Jan, thank you for your visit and for leaving a comment. I am determined to heal no matter how much work it takes me to accomplish that task. <br /><br />You are very welcome. I share in order to let other survivors know that they are not alone in their struggle to heal. We all, including me, need to know that we have someone's support in our journey. <br /><br />I have found that some family members have the hardest time accepting the changes that I have made in myself through my healing. When we heal, friends accept us or they move on to other places. Then we have to grieve their loss. Letting go has never been easy for me.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-2339966242348058152011-08-11T11:43:58.246-05:002011-08-11T11:43:58.246-05:00What a tough lesson you have learned. I am still i...What a tough lesson you have learned. I am still in the process of setting boundaries,it is difficult for me to stay consistent in this with certain members of my family. I am grateful to you for sharing this with us, it was something I needed to hear. I hope someday to be strong enough to step up for myself ALL the time. The only friends I have at this point, I have never personally met other than skype . I lost any "friends" I had when I got sober. I have my family, all the abusers are dead now, I do however still have toxic relationships within the family. <br />Again thank you, and yes I was oblivious to your happenings as well.<3 I admire your courage and determination.photos by janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931922143998773384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-56924023394619324982011-08-09T23:02:29.847-05:002011-08-09T23:02:29.847-05:00Pam, I hope that a lot of people were oblivious to...Pam, I hope that a lot of people were oblivious to what was going on. Thank you for your words. I am moving on and hope that the other person will too. Holding onto resentments isn't good for anyone.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-41294070265328656392011-08-09T21:46:47.373-05:002011-08-09T21:46:47.373-05:00Hi Patricia, this is Pam. I'm just posting as ...Hi Patricia, this is Pam. I'm just posting as anonymous because I don't remember my Google account name or password. I do that a lot.<br /><br />I'm sad to hear you've had this problem. I know that sometimes things can get so tangled up between people that the only solution is to forgive and move on. It's never easy to lose a friend even when they have hurt you.<br /><br />I was oblivous to most of this but I want you to know that I think no less of you. People can be over-sensitive and it's hard to not hurt them at some point. I know because I've had friends like that and I still have friends like that.I can only be their friend if they can also accept that I at times get hurt and say things I shouldn't. If they can't then the friendship will probably end. Relationships take two and one person can't carry all of the burden in a relationship. Acceptance and forgiveness has to be two-way.<br />I still appreciate the things you have to say and value them. I don't expect you to be perfect. I just like you. I hope you heal from this experience soon and move on to healthier relationships. <br /><br />Love,<br />PamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-41239566384337449652011-08-09T10:43:06.130-05:002011-08-09T10:43:06.130-05:00JBR, thank you so much for your continued support ...JBR, thank you so much for your continued support and for your comment. Safe hugs back to you too.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-54299353745716091182011-08-09T05:00:28.436-05:002011-08-09T05:00:28.436-05:00Pat this says so much. So much I can relate to. ...Pat this says so much. So much I can relate to. Thank you for taking the time to share. Safe hugs.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-58579187808524001292011-08-08T19:28:15.197-05:002011-08-08T19:28:15.197-05:00Adnama, Even though all of the hurts and abuse, I ...Adnama, Even though all of the hurts and abuse, I did still love my parents. From a distance is sometimes best, especially if one of them never changed from being an abuser. Thanks for your visit and your comment.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-84356902100107841682011-08-08T17:36:06.221-05:002011-08-08T17:36:06.221-05:00It amazes me as I read through your post, as you r...It amazes me as I read through your post, as you recounted your family dynamics & how you responded (became the fixer-the parent) I see a lot of how I walked a very similar walk. The childhood part sucked- but I finally realized that "I" now have my emancipation papers and can say who comes and who stays in MY life. I owe no nothing but love and sometimes it is better expressed from a distance.Adnamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17512362976802496124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-44454140262110817782011-08-06T22:33:13.988-05:002011-08-06T22:33:13.988-05:00Sophie, thank you for your kindness. This move was...Sophie, thank you for your kindness. This move was definitely necessaray for my own good as you said.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-9278662253419988642011-08-06T22:29:39.177-05:002011-08-06T22:29:39.177-05:00Renee, thank you so much for your words of encoura...Renee, thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I appreciate so much tonight. I know it is necessary for my own good.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-17761679981653582162011-08-06T21:52:43.794-05:002011-08-06T21:52:43.794-05:00I am sorry you are hurting right now Patricia.
i a...I am sorry you are hurting right now Patricia.<br />i agree with you: pedestals are no good coz we can only fall from them and toxic relationships must go, however much good there was in us or the other person. Just done that and didn't like it but it was another necessary step to my recovery.Sophiehttp://www.attunementsforthesoul.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-16221531840640250732011-08-06T21:39:00.838-05:002011-08-06T21:39:00.838-05:00Separating from certain individuals is a necessity...Separating from certain individuals is a necessity, in the healing process. In one relationship that I have severed, the person has tried repeatedly to reconnect, but I refuse to entertain the notion. I applaud you for standing your ground. It's never easy to end relationships, but your emotional health is priority. Life is too short. Be encouraged my friend, you have many unseen friends in cyberspace.Reneehttp://www.successfullysurvivingsexualabuse.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-4187360472488945282011-08-06T20:29:27.466-05:002011-08-06T20:29:27.466-05:00Faith, thank you. I agree with both you and Jane....Faith, thank you. I agree with both you and Jane. I appreciate your thoughts. I learn so much from the people who share my journey.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-74221550945921554122011-08-06T20:15:21.852-05:002011-08-06T20:15:21.852-05:00Patricia,
Sharing is healing and helping others c...Patricia,<br /><br />Sharing is healing and helping others can be healing. Keep sharing and healing. Like you, I am not an "expert" either. I just know that I have come further than many I have known and feel so thankful.<br /><br />I will continue to share my journey as well as follow yours.<br /><br />Jane, as for "It still hurts to think about one of these lost contacts, but it would hurt worse if I were still coping with their dramas." - Ditto and right on. <br /><br />Leads me back to my thought that it is better to miss them than be hurt by them.<br /><br />Journey on!Faithhttp://www.survivingwithfaith.com/id1.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-21777043911140178132011-08-06T16:48:56.945-05:002011-08-06T16:48:56.945-05:00Jane, thank you. This has been a really big lesson...Jane, thank you. This has been a really big lesson for me. I hate letting go of friendships but when they become toxic to me, I have no other choice.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-43752296200783264832011-08-06T16:41:35.445-05:002011-08-06T16:41:35.445-05:00Patricia, Thank you for this brave post.
As I hea...Patricia, Thank you for this brave post.<br /><br />As I healed from my early abuse, I also found that I needed to detach from certain friends in my life. They were not "bad" people, which made it all the harder. Their needs and requirements were toxic to me. They were baffled, hurt, and angry when I set boundaries. It still hurts to think about one of these lost contacts, but it would hurt worse if I were still coping with their dramas.<br /><br />So I sympathize and wish you well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-60086728922848846372011-08-05T19:16:19.790-05:002011-08-05T19:16:19.790-05:00G, thank you. I appreciate your words.G, thank you. I appreciate your words.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-50561903668276524982011-08-05T18:51:44.110-05:002011-08-05T18:51:44.110-05:00i am still in a process of everything so i really ...i am still in a process of everything so i really do not know what to say here...my emotions now are overwhelming because of my wanting "to heal" also..i just want to send you my hugs for this blog entry...you can not please everybody..but you can still be a human angel to some without you knowing it Patricia.:)!!GAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com