tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post7027810645403460164..comments2024-02-13T05:21:26.676-06:00Comments on Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker: Denial: Pretending Everything Is Okay Doesn't Mean Everything Is OkayPatricia Singletonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-54983674849566052802012-06-02T21:28:25.049-05:002012-06-02T21:28:25.049-05:00Kimberly, You are very welcome. Welcome to my blog...Kimberly, You are very welcome. Welcome to my blog. Congratulations on the 2012 Voice of the Year Award from BlogHer. <br /><br />I have come to realize, for myself, that new issues sometimes come up because I am ready to deal with them now when I wasn't in the past. That is growth. Tears are healing. <br /><br />Thank you for the Happy Blogging Anniversary wishes. I invite you to come visit and leave comments again.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-66656161860107707462012-06-02T21:01:48.008-05:002012-06-02T21:01:48.008-05:00Thanks for this. On a journey of healing for more ...Thanks for this. On a journey of healing for more than 20 years, though lately things have surfaced...but coupled with good things, like finally graduating from college (after being told I would never be able to do so) and being recognized by BlogHer as a 2012 Voice of the Year. These good things seem to come with a deep sadness...a grief of sorts...and as I sit her on the couch, I realize this exhaustion I am feeling is due to denying the grief. If tears of grief are mixed among the tears of joy...so what?....and how beautiful....to let it out makes room for more goodness....goodness that I am not yet used to embracing. I am grateful for your space in the Web...Happy Blogging Anniversary.kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01512573342918958641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-3961147436820566922012-05-25T16:09:32.675-05:002012-05-25T16:09:32.675-05:00Pam, I agree with you. Denial is the biggest weapo...Pam, I agree with you. Denial is the biggest weapon that our abusers and sometimes our families can use against us in our struggle to heal. Denial is at its worst when we ourselves are in it. Until the self-denial is stripped away, we don't heal. We have to accept that we need to heal before healing can start to happen. Many families continue to live in denial long after we, the survivor has chosen to heal. Sometimes putting distance between ourselves and our families is needed for our protection when the family refuses to face their own denial.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-64640842514808303602012-05-25T14:36:05.169-05:002012-05-25T14:36:05.169-05:00Hi Patricia, I hate denial! My family of origin us...Hi Patricia, I hate denial! My family of origin uses this to the point that they live in a complete fantasy world. To me, denial is the biggest road block to healing.<br /><br />PamPamhttp://www.boomerback-beat.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-61227916508206636832012-05-08T18:39:31.286-05:002012-05-08T18:39:31.286-05:00Jane, thank you. Everything you hear about denial ...Jane, thank you. Everything you hear about denial usually shows it as bad for you. When I was a child and powerless, like you said, denial had its purpose in saving my life. As an adult, denial caused many problems for me. I would recommend your book The River of Forgetting to all of my readers.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-40040524661638867422012-05-08T17:05:42.960-05:002012-05-08T17:05:42.960-05:00Hear, hear! I love your distinction about the usef...Hear, hear! I love your distinction about the usefulness of denial when we are powerless vs. the problem of denial when we are able to act as grownups.<br /><br />My memoir, The River of Forgetting, is all about the dance with denial and the recovery of lost memories.<br /><br />My Best to you, Patricia, and thanks for your work,<br />JaneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com