tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post4551089460899712725..comments2024-02-13T05:21:26.676-06:00Comments on Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker: Growing Up With Alcoholism In The FamilyPatricia Singletonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-15006252723648589442011-08-26T17:46:16.780-05:002011-08-26T17:46:16.780-05:00Ellen, thank you. With your gentleness of spirit a...Ellen, thank you. With your gentleness of spirit and strength of character, you inspire me to be better, to be more with your kindness. I, too, believe that forgiveness has its own timetable. The meditation was just the beginning of forgiveness for me. It didn't happen all at once. You are very welcome. I am glad that my words touched you.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-47654211540794293862011-08-26T17:33:39.765-05:002011-08-26T17:33:39.765-05:00Wow, Patricia. What an amazing post. I am so inspi...Wow, Patricia. What an amazing post. I am so inspired by your willingness to make yourself so vulnerable! And I am so sorry about all that you endured as a child. And I so admire the fact that you were able to be healed by that meditation. <br /><br />Forgiving my Mom took such a long time, and in some ways never seemed intentional. What I mean by that is that no one ever suggested that I forgive her or suggested a specific meditation ... Maybe if they had, I would have forgiven her that much sooner. Or maybe forgiveness has its own timetable and happens in its own time. In any case, thank you for your heartfelt post!Ellen Brownhttp://ellen-brown.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-20927202389258849322009-04-26T08:24:00.000-05:002009-04-26T08:24:00.000-05:00Ray, I am so glad that you are here reading my blo...Ray, I am so glad that you are here reading my blog. It might help you to understand some things about our family. Life is always about choices.<br /><br />When I was your age, I saw a lot of my dad in myself too. I didn't like it either. Growing up feeling like I had no control, when I got married, I became a control freak. Daniel says it was easier to go along than to fight all the time. <br /><br />At age 27, a small voice in my head admitted that I wasn't happy being the dictator that my dad had been. I wish I could say that was the day that I gave the control over to God, but it wasn't. The whole process took many years. Today when I get frightened by something, I may still slip back into controlling for a very short time until I realize that I need to give it back to God. <br /><br />It took a lot of prayer and support groups to get me where I am today. Accept who you are. Become aware of the choices that you can make to change what you don't like about yourself. We don't have to follow in our parents foot steps. Thanks for the insights that you gave me with your comment.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-54391336505097324362009-04-26T08:04:00.000-05:002009-04-26T08:04:00.000-05:00My Dad and Raymond had the same relationship as Ra...My Dad and Raymond had the same relationship as Raymond and Jodie. I seen the same thing with the two of them. Raymond did not have to be drunk to be mean. He was easily the meanest person I've ever met. I still have not let go of the hate I have for him. Its fitting that he died alone. I hope I can forgive one day or at least let go. I see him in me sometimes and I have a real problem with that.Raynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-62113534236006423792009-02-02T11:38:00.000-06:002009-02-02T11:38:00.000-06:00Alcohol Rehab, thanks for your comment. There is ...Alcohol Rehab, thanks for your comment. There is no doubt in my mind that if I drank, I would be an alcoholic. My dad and grandfather both drank beer and whiskey. My drink of choice would be wine. I never liked the taste of beer and whiskey burns too much. Because I have lived with the effects of alcoholism growing up, I choose to not drink. I love my family too much to do that. Alcoholism really is a disease that changes a person until the alcohol becomes more important than family and friends.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-68825666250172842602009-02-02T11:31:00.000-06:002009-02-02T11:31:00.000-06:00The story is very touching and it teaches alcoholi...The story is very touching and it teaches alcoholic people out there to change for the better. It also shows the bad effects of alcoholism which destroys family relationships.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-66767910354778392922008-10-01T11:34:00.000-05:002008-10-01T11:34:00.000-05:00Barbara, I am so pleased to know that the process ...Barbara, I am so pleased to know that the process is working for you. I hope that you are proud of yourself for the courage that you have to do this very hard and rewarding work.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-47326097291244490572008-10-01T10:54:00.000-05:002008-10-01T10:54:00.000-05:00Hi Patricia,As you know, I currently am involved i...Hi Patricia,<BR/><BR/>As you know, I currently am involved in a 12 step program, not unlike the one you attended. Each week in the meeting, I share a little bit more of my part and memory of my family's story. Sometimes I am surprised at the pieces I uncover. What I find the most important as I do this, is the evolution of what happens as I discover. It allows me another step toward freedom, the freedom you demonstrate acquiring in your story here. The telling (and sometimes necessary re-telling)literally sheds the old, by shedding the light of day. It is not without work, sometimes very hard work, so not instant or automatic, but I think it works in its simplicity.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for telling,<BR/>BarbaraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-48301549264840842032008-09-29T10:11:00.000-05:002008-09-29T10:11:00.000-05:00There was also three years of professional counsel...There was also three years of professional counseling that helped.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-49232785845544601112008-09-29T10:10:00.000-05:002008-09-29T10:10:00.000-05:00Irene, thank you. I am glad that my words touched...Irene, thank you. I am glad that my words touched your heart. Forgive at a deep level isn't an instant happening. I had ten years in Al-Anon and another year of Unity church teachings before the forgiveness process really started for me.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-15135777923340294812008-09-29T09:48:00.000-05:002008-09-29T09:48:00.000-05:00Patricia, this post got me all emotional ... it do...Patricia, this post got me all emotional ... it does take so much courage to be able to forgive at such a deep level. You're amazing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-52588728051082605462008-09-28T09:52:00.000-05:002008-09-28T09:52:00.000-05:00Slade, an exercise from the book "finding forgiven...Slade, an exercise from the book "finding forgiveness" written by Eileen R. Borris-Dunchunstang, Ed. D. started the idea. It took me several days to get my mind around the idea and how I wanted to present it. I already had the quote from the Al-Anon book. Then I sat down at the computer and started writing. The words flowed easily then.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-16188518418784896202008-09-28T09:35:00.000-05:002008-09-28T09:35:00.000-05:00Patricia, This is a really powerful story. The end...Patricia, <BR/><BR/>This is a really powerful story. The ending, seeing your parents as they might have once been as children... It leaves me speechless. <BR/><BR/>SladeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com