tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post4484215658098799472..comments2024-02-13T05:21:26.676-06:00Comments on Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker: Dare To ForgivePatricia Singletonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-1871588276161922092009-10-01T10:08:18.409-05:002009-10-01T10:08:18.409-05:00Hemorroides, being able to love the abuser and sti...Hemorroides, being able to love the abuser and still hold the abuser accountable for their behavior is very important to me too. It is what finally allowed me to forgive my parents. It took away my confusion and hatred.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-25278026767343582262009-10-01T06:37:17.941-05:002009-10-01T06:37:17.941-05:00I think it's important what you quoted about t...I think it's important what you quoted about that when it comes to forgiveness, we can love someone and still hold them accountable for their behaviour.Hémorroïdeshttp://fr.hemapro.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-25960194171307973852008-09-25T21:16:00.000-05:002008-09-25T21:16:00.000-05:00Jenny, thank you. I never told my dad face to fac...Jenny, thank you. I never told my dad face to face that I forgave him. The day he died he was still an alcoholic and sexual predator. I told his Higher Self that I forgave him when I was standing next to him in his hospital room a year and a half before he died. If I had said the words out loud, it would have started my dad saying that he had never done anything wrong. He never once admitted to doing anything wrong. That would have been nice if he could have said the words but they weren't necessary for me to forgive him. The forgiveness was a releasing of my anger and hurt. The forgiveness was for me, a releasing of the past so that it wouldn't continue to affect my body, mind and future.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-32587706357807315762008-09-25T15:57:00.000-05:002008-09-25T15:57:00.000-05:00A very well expressed post! It brings up some grea...A very well expressed post! It brings up some great points, but what do you do when you are ready to forgive, but the person or persons you want to forgive don't even think they did anything wrong and you were the one who was wrong? Plus it's not as if I still talk to them any more anyway. Forgiveness is a tricky thing, some people see it as approval to go on the way things were, but it's up to us to not let them. Thank you for bringing this subject up!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-55706929756451575132008-09-15T20:47:00.000-05:002008-09-15T20:47:00.000-05:00Eileen, I just found the time to check out your we...Eileen, I just found the time to check out your website and your book. When I purchased "Dare To Forgive", I also purchased your book, "finding forgiveness". I purchased your book because of the subtitle which says, "A 7-Step Program for Letting Go of Anger and Bitterness." When I saw your book on your website, I went and found my copy that is still waiting to be read.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-41462060562221228252008-09-15T20:37:00.000-05:002008-09-15T20:37:00.000-05:00Phil, usually I don't do as many quotes in my arti...Phil, usually I don't do as many quotes in my articles as I did with this one but the information was so good that I wanted to include all of the paragraphs that I was reading. Making others think is part of why I am sharing my journey through my blog writing. So thank you for telling me that.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-13180478332205238962008-09-15T20:33:00.000-05:002008-09-15T20:33:00.000-05:00Phil, you are very welcome. I have been writing a...Phil, you are very welcome. I have been writing about forgiveness lately because it is what I am working with and reading about.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-49822618064748123932008-09-15T20:30:00.000-05:002008-09-15T20:30:00.000-05:00OK, so I re-read, and I see the words I previously...OK, so I re-read, and I see the words I previously quoted are not yours, but they are STILL so very powerful.<BR/><BR/>I love how your close: "Why am I again working on forgiveness? Because I don't want to die from a heart condition like my mother did. Because I know that forgiving will bring me relief and release from the pain of hating and anger. In order to be happy, I will forgive others and myself for real and imagined transgressions. In order to be free, I will forgive."<BR/><BR/>Forgiveness = freedom. OK, I get that. And I am working on it. I have a lot of forgiveness to get right. <BR/><BR/>Thank you Patricia. Regardless of who said what, this post is outstanding and is making me think hard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-23645461592012938562008-09-15T20:28:00.000-05:002008-09-15T20:28:00.000-05:00Wow Patricia, this one sure hit me right where I a...Wow Patricia, this one sure hit me right where I am. I especially love this quote from you: "Ultimately forgiveness is an action we take to free ourselves from the pain we've been carrying. Forgiveness creates space in our lives for our own healing." <BR/><BR/>We forgive people so WE can heal, not so they can. If we accept that, then WE can heal, get better, whatever. If we don't, we are hurting ourselves. <BR/><BR/>Thank you. This post has blessed me greatly, and will be shared with everyone I know.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-86037719175957079852008-09-14T11:19:00.000-05:002008-09-14T11:19:00.000-05:00Slade, I am glad that I can be of help to you. I ...Slade, I am glad that I can be of help to you. I will look forward to reading your article.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-48043919559233787632008-09-14T11:16:00.000-05:002008-09-14T11:16:00.000-05:00Eileen, thank you for your comment and for making ...Eileen, thank you for your comment and for making me aware of your book.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-55063007201589023592008-09-14T10:21:00.000-05:002008-09-14T10:21:00.000-05:00Patricia,This is SO timely! Lately, I've been cont...Patricia,<BR/><BR/>This is SO timely! Lately, I've been contemplating the relationship between forgiveness and healing... I'm not quite at the point where I can articulate it, but your post gives me a lot more to think about.<BR/><BR/>Thank you!<BR/>SladeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-62814416011138776412008-09-14T09:41:00.000-05:002008-09-14T09:41:00.000-05:00Patricia, thank-you for your words about forgivene...Patricia, thank-you for your words about forgiveness. You send a very important message to so many people. Forgiveness is about your own inner healing, letting go of your pain so you can lead a more peaceful life. Having said that the message that is really important is that you can forgive someone but that doesn't mean you have to be in a relationship with them, especially if it is an abusive one. I think it is very important to be able to walk in someone elses shoes so we can learn about empathy and compassion. This is a way in which we can heal our own anger. I too have written a book on forgiveness which includes a process in how to forgive. It includes many inspiring stories of people who under very difficult circumstances have been able to forgive and as a result have done extraordinary things. These stories can touch your heart as your story can touch so many other people. I have a lot of respect for you.<BR/><BR/>Dr. Eileen Borris-Dunchunstang<BR/>author of "Finding Forgiveness"<BR/>www.dreileenborris.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com