tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post4165605071101880925..comments2024-02-13T05:21:26.676-06:00Comments on Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker: Effects Of Incest - When Your Abuser Is Your DadPatricia Singletonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-29831051003201209942014-01-01T15:34:01.258-06:002014-01-01T15:34:01.258-06:00Jean Marie, Thank you. Sending prayers and blessin...Jean Marie, Thank you. Sending prayers and blessings to you for a glorious 2014. The abuse still affects my marriage and intimate relationship with my husband today but to a much lesser degree. (((Hugs))) Just keep talking to your husband. Tell him what you are feeling and what your thoughts are so that he can understand.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-91745521980271459512013-12-31T07:23:13.990-06:002013-12-31T07:23:13.990-06:00Patricia, you write so clearly about the conflict...Patricia, you write so clearly about the conflict in the marriage bed. I married believing I was a virgine, in complete denial. My husband knew after our first time. He asked me about it. I was oblivious and did not even understand what he was asking. My dads lie was that I was the one who got away. I believed him. This last year I finally faced the memory of being raped by my father. Which was the worst moment. This still affects my intimate relationship with my husband.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00083458018799949192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-59235418678209346052013-09-03T09:00:36.737-05:002013-09-03T09:00:36.737-05:00Tracie, Thank you. The ambivalence of our feelings...Tracie, Thank you. The ambivalence of our feelings creates so much confusion and shame inside of us as incest survivors when our abuser is someone that we love. Yes, my loving compassionate husband is a beautiful blessing in my life. I tell him so often.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-26955369659281452932013-09-03T08:55:54.862-05:002013-09-03T08:55:54.862-05:00This is the best explanation of the love/hate dich...This is the best explanation of the love/hate dichotomy so many incest survivors experience. <br /><br />I, too, loved and hated my abuser uncle - he was my best friend and my worst nightmare. This is part of the curse of incest. <br /><br />Having a supportive spouse who helps to work through the issues, until you can find love and pleasure in the act of sex, is one of the most beautiful blessings a survivor can have in his/her life.Tracie Nallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908908021649000930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-6220899493418893182013-09-03T08:46:03.961-05:002013-09-03T08:46:03.961-05:00Alene, I thank you for your words. They are import...Alene, I thank you for your words. They are important to me. You are very welcome. I appreciate your show of support.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-82984632349868943582013-09-03T07:44:04.093-05:002013-09-03T07:44:04.093-05:00Beautifully written post, Patricia. You convey the...Beautifully written post, Patricia. You convey the intensity of your feelings so well, and touch the reader's heart by showing your own. Thank you again for sharing.Alene Gone Badhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887360033395271217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-21826270641481639972013-09-02T18:53:32.536-05:002013-09-02T18:53:32.536-05:00Mary, I am so proud of you, my dear friend. We are...Mary, I am so proud of you, my dear friend. We are survivors and together we will get thru this. Love to you too. (((Hugs)))Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-10691197527275785042013-09-02T18:41:18.304-05:002013-09-02T18:41:18.304-05:00Pat, thank you for this post, yes, I felt love for...Pat, thank you for this post, yes, I felt love for the dad that took me fishing, who showed me compassion when my mother didn't care. But then the dad who I hate for what he did to me. It is a love hate relationship stuck inside our hearts. It hurts so much. <br /><br />I never told my husband for 25 years after we were married, and he was so understanding, and couldn't understand how a father could do something like that to his own daughter. <br /><br />We survived, and the memories can still come out, and facing that new memory is so hard to do. And like you said Love and hate do exist in one heart, we as incest survivors have felt it, we know it is real. Big hugs my dear friend. Love you for you, and for all you do for others <3nippercatshomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642367051111890861noreply@blogger.com