tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post3825446802991572301..comments2024-02-13T05:21:26.676-06:00Comments on Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker: Happy Father's Day, DaddyPatricia Singletonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-6045246576032192332011-06-17T14:46:11.219-05:002011-06-17T14:46:11.219-05:00Healing_Within, at this point in your healing jour...Healing_Within, at this point in your healing journey don't even think about doing forgiveness. It is too early in the journey.<br /><br />At some point you may have to let go of all of the trying to understand and just do the feelings. Constantly asking why when there is no one to give you the answers, honest answers, not the lies from your abusers, can keep you stuck in the pain of child abuse. I know because for a long time, I was stuck in the whys, wanting to know why I was abused rather than allowing myself to feel. <br /><br />Why keeps you in your head. As long as you are in your head, you can find all kinds of ways not to feel the pain of the childhood abuse. In order to heal, you have to go through the pain.<br /><br />You blog posts are a good place to start. Keep up your writing. It does help.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-42675961895184116932011-06-17T14:12:44.159-05:002011-06-17T14:12:44.159-05:00With me I have never questioned whether there need...With me I have never questioned whether there needed to be forgiveness but understanding and since I never knew my daddy or even really my mom though i lived with her I am forever living a big question mark. Somehow the Eternal One put in my heart not the desire to be angry but a desire to understand and that I cannot understand why things happened, why I was born and not really wanted..why the man who donated part of himself to create me ran ..and why my mom accepted his donation only because she needed easy cash..leaves me with a big questionmark in my mind. I feel to be angry one has had to understand things..I dont' understand and that is my great suffering. not knowing why things happened..why I happened. .and why after I happened .I was not wanted.. I surrender up my lack of understanding to the Creator that He may handle my confusion as He sees fit. as I cannot make sense of any of it. I am an orphan simply because I was not planned.. Happy Daddy's day .where ever and whoever you are. .and sorry . .you never got to know me. ..joyjoy pachowicz (DoraJacina)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10720848234548138160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-82915665822456880712007-12-29T15:40:00.000-06:002007-12-29T15:40:00.000-06:00Wordsistr, I appreciate your hesitation and your h...Wordsistr, I appreciate your hesitation and your honesty. Forgiveness is a difficult subject for many of us.<BR/><BR/>The Hindu religion has taught me that I don't have to have any form for God. God can be and is formless as his highest being. <BR/><BR/>In doing forgiveness, I hope that I never give the impression that I am asking the question, "Am I good enough now?" Forgiveness is my way of releasing the anger and sadness from my mind and body that have been doing me harm for years. It has nothing to do with my dad and where he is. Up until the day that he died, my dad was still a sexual preditor, not safe for me or my children to be around. He had not been a part of our lives for many years. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing your views.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-69630886275229649252007-12-29T14:55:00.000-06:002007-12-29T14:55:00.000-06:00My fingers hesitate...what I'm itching to type is ...My fingers hesitate...what I'm itching to type is why do we see something so ineffable and omnipresent as God in terms of gender? Gender is a brilliant evolutionary strategy enabling and enriching the physical component of consciousness and "is-ness". One way through which the universe/god can know itself/ourselves. To call our God a mother or a father seems to unnecessarily complicate healing from our own woefully damaged and incompetent fathers (and mothers). One thing I realized in 2007 is that granting someone forgiveness cannot be done with even a speck of submission. With even a hint of am-I-good-enough-now?. The best forgiveness comes with the joyous freedom to stop communicating with them; releasing them to try again next time and wishing them more peace and success with the next souls they encounter. But away away with them! They had their chance to communicate with us and they lost it. If we stop looking up to a parental God with our desire to receive compassion and forgiveness and to be loved...we can instead be love. We can let all our defenses down and let ourselves be flooded with love. Let all the fearful energy ground into us as children flee from the light that we are. We never belonged in the dark with our fathers. I can look back with compassion for defiling himself and genuinely wish him well but I wash my hands of his journey. Our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit! And the Spirit has me whole!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02683817867567585930noreply@blogger.com