tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post323131197483617918..comments2024-02-13T05:21:26.676-06:00Comments on Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker: Reconnecting With SelfPatricia Singletonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-7186170068799548282008-04-05T19:51:00.000-05:002008-04-05T19:51:00.000-05:00Evan, thank you for taking the time to reach out t...Evan, thank you for taking the time to reach out to JoAnn with your words.<BR/>PatriciaPatricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-41273315713878060312008-04-05T19:16:00.000-05:002008-04-05T19:16:00.000-05:00Thanks JoAnn. It must have been very difficult to...Thanks JoAnn. It must have been very difficult to write these letters.<BR/><BR/>I have never lost a child or even a member of my immediate family. (Both my parents are still alive at 83.)<BR/><BR/>I think, from seeing those I know who have come through this, that the idea that you can get over it is just stupid. You find a different way to live. <BR/><BR/>In the meantime be as kind as you can to yourself. If you had a friend going through what you are then I'm sure you would support them and do as many nice things for them as you could. Try to do this for yourself. This has helped people I know have the strength to deal with the pain.Evanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13355215688351759230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-68016601900087229842008-04-05T19:09:00.000-05:002008-04-05T19:09:00.000-05:00Corinne, thank you so much for your kind words of ...Corinne, thank you so much for your kind words of wisdom. I will pass them on to JoAnn.<BR/>PatriciaPatricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-66808585901288699652008-04-05T18:49:00.000-05:002008-04-05T18:49:00.000-05:00Dear Jo Ann -I lost a son in a drowning accident w...Dear Jo Ann -<BR/><BR/>I lost a son in a drowning accident when he was 21.<BR/><BR/>One of the older men in my office came over to see me soon afterward. His son had been killed by a drunk driver while he was changing a tire.<BR/><BR/>He gave me the best advice I ever got.<BR/><BR/>He said, "You will never get over this. Don't try."<BR/><BR/>If you realize that it will be the most important step you have taken.<BR/><BR/>Because, if you know you will never get over it, you will stop trying.<BR/><BR/>Nobody knows what you are going through except a person who has been there. <BR/><BR/>You can get over losing a mother, a husband - anyone. Never a child.<BR/><BR/>It is an amputation. And a private club you never wanted to belong to.<BR/><BR/>And it is lonely. Somehow people - close friends - will talk to you about losing anyone. But when it comes to a child they are without words to help.<BR/><BR/>It has been years now and there are still mornings when I wake up and it seems like it happened yesterday.<BR/><BR/>Stop trying to adjust. You can't.<BR/><BR/>Your life will go on and there will be happy moments.<BR/><BR/>But you are changed forever.<BR/><BR/>I send my love and great understanding to you with this message.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com