tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post2835394019062388331..comments2024-02-13T05:21:26.676-06:00Comments on Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker: Shame, The Abuser's FriendPatricia Singletonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-88682905570599425592008-06-24T08:52:00.000-05:002008-06-24T08:52:00.000-05:00Paula, thanks for the valuable information that yo...Paula, thanks for the valuable information that you allowed me to share with everyone. Tools of healing and empowerment are so important to survivors who are just beginning and to those of us who have been healing for awhile. This was a new tool for me.<BR/><BR/>Sorry about whatever the technical problem was last night.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-21462030044844893662008-06-24T08:49:00.000-05:002008-06-24T08:49:00.000-05:00Paula Kawal---comment that for some technical reas...Paula Kawal---comment that for some technical reason and Patricia's not paying closer attention wound up attached to another article instead of here where it belongs. My apologies to Paula. Patricia<BR/><BR/>Here is Paula's comment:<BR/>Wow, Patricia!<BR/><BR/>You did an excellent job in fleshing the concepts in these comments out into and an easily understood article.<BR/><BR/>The concept of "imprinting" applies quite well to shame, as it more readily illustrates the process of how we can confuse ourselves with the "other" in our experience.<BR/><BR/>YOur blog is walking survivors toward new ways of looking at their life situations...<BR/><BR/>This kind of healing is so necessary in the world :)<BR/><BR/>What you are doing takes a lot of courage...thank you!<BR/><BR/>Love and Light,<BR/>PKPatricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-65144574703748605512008-06-24T08:21:00.000-05:002008-06-24T08:21:00.000-05:00Evan, thank you for your comment. I also thank Pa...Evan, thank you for your comment. I also thank Paula for giving me these tools for healing the internalized abuser that I have carried around with me for many years. It is a very valuable tool.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-35233638837173153412008-06-24T08:19:00.000-05:002008-06-24T08:19:00.000-05:00Irene, thank you so much for your words of praise....Irene, thank you so much for your words of praise. When I was growing up in the U. S. in the 1950's and 1960's, incest was not spoken of either. It was a thing of shame that something like this happened to me or anyone else. I was much older before I could start to talk about the incest. <BR/><BR/>I was in my early 30's when I started looking for books about incest. I found two or three books in the library and that was it. That was years before the internet was available for most of us. I was 38 years old when I started going to Al-Anon and Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings and finally found a group of people that I could tell about the incest. <BR/><BR/>Talking about it in those groups is what gave me the courage to start healing. I write because I hope that others will read my stories and will see that talking about it hasn't killed me. Sometimes we need to see others be courageous to give ourselves permission to do the same. I share my story to help others heal. <BR/><BR/>For so many years, there was no one to help or encourage me to heal. That is the main purpose for me writing on my blog---to share my healing journey. With the internet, our blogs can reach people around the world. Thanks for listening.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-20632413606727365812008-06-24T02:11:00.000-05:002008-06-24T02:11:00.000-05:00Thankfully I wasn't abused physically or sexually ...Thankfully I wasn't abused physically or sexually as a child (or since I'm glad to say).<BR/><BR/>I do recognise this dynamic though.<BR/><BR/>And the liberation that I have seen people experience as they come to terms with the part of the abuser they have internalised is awesome.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for an incredibly valuable post.Evanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13355215688351759230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-45848847394459669282008-06-24T01:00:00.000-05:002008-06-24T01:00:00.000-05:00Patricia,Coming from the other side of the globe f...Patricia,<BR/><BR/>Coming from the other side of the globe from where you are, where openness isn't exactly a basic trait in our culture, I have to say you are one of the most courageous woman I've ever met (physically or online), and you're awe-inspiring!<BR/><BR/>Thank Heavens for the Internet! And thank you so much for sharing your experiences and wisdom. It will help soooooooo many others.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com