tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post1350128670935554757..comments2024-02-13T05:21:26.676-06:00Comments on Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker: Just A MomPatricia Singletonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-44737661764670996912010-10-23T12:17:29.855-05:002010-10-23T12:17:29.855-05:00Marj, you are very welcome. I need to be reminded...Marj, you are very welcome. I need to be reminded of this sometimes too. That is why I wrote this post.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-62079691794993803582010-10-23T12:14:07.665-05:002010-10-23T12:14:07.665-05:00I LOVE this! Thanks for sharing this with us for ...I LOVE this! Thanks for sharing this with us for the blog carnival, Patricia. I have often felt inferior and have been tempted to say myself, "I'm just a mom." So, this is a good reminder for me.<br /><br />Another good reminder is the fact that my mother, also, could not love me because she did not love herself. I have a hard time remembering that sometimes. Thanks!Marj aka Thriverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06825698906631474866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-29602024719438246172010-10-21T21:20:27.423-05:002010-10-21T21:20:27.423-05:00Tracie, you expressed yourself very well. You exp...Tracie, you expressed yourself very well. You expressed the very same doubts that I had as a parent when my children were young. Out of my rigidness and fears, I can't say that I didn't cause harm to my children. I didn't sexually abuse them like what was done to me but I did pass on some of my fears before I got healthier.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-60312619495761912542010-10-21T20:34:43.677-05:002010-10-21T20:34:43.677-05:00This is such a huge topic, I'm just not sure I...This is such a huge topic, I'm just not sure I can really do it justice in this comment (which explains why I have written and erased about three totally different comments already). <br /><br />I struggle with those "not good enough" feelings as a parent. I worry that I am doing things wildly wrong (things that I have no clue about) and won't find out until it is too late and my daughter is grown and the damage has been done. <br /><br />The one thing that I know for sure is that there is no abuse in her life. I hope that small missteps I might make along the way will not change her life or harm her. <br /><br />Some days I feel like I am learning how to do this life thing right along with her.Tracie Nallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908908021649000930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-36752648499633114692010-10-14T23:18:43.310-05:002010-10-14T23:18:43.310-05:00Darlene, thank you. Yes, reading your blog articl...Darlene, thank you. Yes, reading your blog articles about your mother and all of the comments make me realize that my mom wasn't as abusive as a lot of others were. I can be grateful for that. My dad was my main abuser.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-82907067200212888362010-10-14T23:13:31.387-05:002010-10-14T23:13:31.387-05:00Hey Patricia,
No, I didn't think you were maki...Hey Patricia,<br />No, I didn't think you were making excuses for your mom; reading your post made me remember how much I know my mom tried, even though she still failed. (I feel sorry for her, but that almost killed me) Just a different story than yours.) I love your blog too and I really appreciate all your participtation on mine. You add SO much!<br />Hugs, DarleneDarlene Ouimethttp://www.emergingfrombroken.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-38233002867651810232010-10-13T22:35:31.378-05:002010-10-13T22:35:31.378-05:00Darlene, I hope it didn't sound like I was mak...Darlene, I hope it didn't sound like I was making excuses for my mom. That is why I wrote the post called "Your Parents Did The Best They Could." That post is about how angry I would get when I heard someone say that. Excuses for abusing a child, however much I may understand them, still doesn't make the abuse right. No matter what your history is, even if you were abused like we were, it is no good reason to turn around and abuse your own children. I made mistakes with my children. There are differences between making mistakes and actually abusing your children like our parents did. <br /><br />As a child, I was my mother's protector and I continued to be her protector for many years as an adult because I didn't know any better. Today I am not my mother's protector. I see her for what she was-an abuser through neglect and refusing to see what was in front of her. She didn't want to see. (((Hugs))) back to you.<br /><br />Thank you for writing your blog. The article that I linked to here has helped me to pull out of whatever funk I have been in for the most of the past year. I have written more on your blog and here than I have in over a year.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-29281279397046506122010-10-13T21:02:40.475-05:002010-10-13T21:02:40.475-05:00Hi Patricia;
All I wanted was to be a better mom t...Hi Patricia;<br />All I wanted was to be a better mom to my kids too. And you know what, that is all my mother wanted when she had us too. I think she was a better mother then the one that she had, but it didn't do me any good. She really failed, I know that sound harsh, but all my life I used her past as an excuse to excuse her and I took her abuse. I don't take it anymore. I didn't have the tools with my kids either, but I looked for them. I think I found some of them before it was too late too! I am doing the best I can to model truth to them. They are growing up fast and we have good relationships and they like hanging out with me.. this has to be a good sign, they are all teens ranging from 13 to 19. <br />Thanks for this blog Patricia and thanks for refering to mine too. Hugs, DarleneDarlene Ouimethttp://www.emergingfrombroken.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-27730182109585610122010-10-12T23:03:35.911-05:002010-10-12T23:03:35.911-05:00Colleen, thank you and you are welcome.Colleen, thank you and you are welcome.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-2598595104560439502010-10-11T11:25:02.677-05:002010-10-11T11:25:02.677-05:00Katie, you are very welcome. I am glad to that my...Katie, you are very welcome. I am glad to that my writing gives you something good to think about. I do believe that being a Mother is the most important job that anybody can have. Most of us don't live up to our own expectations. I know I don't. I have to keep remembering a slogan that I learned in 12-Step programs - Progress, not perfection. Have a glorious day.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7679672539901170150.post-62389731167129556712010-10-11T09:47:02.500-05:002010-10-11T09:47:02.500-05:00thank you patricia, so much. your writing always g...thank you patricia, so much. your writing always gives me something good for me. today it gave me comfort and inspiration. i tend to look at myself only in terms of flaws, but am struggling lately to focus on the good. to see how i progress, instead of only the areas where i need to. <br /><br />thank you for all you do.<br /><br />sending love your way~me as i amhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14709343968813770150noreply@blogger.com